Ashley Flynn Murder Case
Ashley Flynn
Ashley Flynn, 37, was fatally shot inside her home in Ohio on February 16, 2026. Her husband, Caleb Flynn, a former American Idol contestant, called 911 reporting a possible burglary. Investigators later determined there was no intruder and charged Caleb Flynn with murder and related offenses.
Timeline
ASHLEY FLYNN MURDER CASE
Ashley Flynn Homicide Timeline
- Victim: Ashley Elizabeth Flynn
- Defendant: Caleb Carl Flynn
- Location: 932 Cunningham Court, Tipp City, Ohio
May 13, 1986
- Caleb Carl Flynn was born.
- This date is confirmed in the official Miami County Municipal Court criminal complaint.
- Ashley Elizabeth Flynn was born.
- Ashley Flynn graduated from Tippecanoe High School in Tipp City, Ohio.
- She was raised in the Tipp City community.
- Ashley attended Lee University in Cleveland, Tennessee.
- Ashley Flynn graduated from Lee University.
- Caleb Flynn also attended Lee University.
- Their relationship began during or shortly after this period.
- Ashley Flynn married Caleb Flynn.
- Caleb Flynn appeared on American Idol Season 12.
- During his appearance, Caleb publicly referenced Ashley as his wife.
- Ashley Flynn became active in church ministry.
- Caleb Flynn served in church ministry as a worship leader and pastor.
- Ashley and Caleb Flynn had two daughters.
- The children resided with both parents at the family residence.
- Ashley Flynn worked as a teacher, substitute teacher in the Tipp City school district, LifeWise Academy instructor, and seventh-grade volleyball coach.
- She was widely known in the community as an educator and mentor.
- Caleb Flynn worked as a worship pastor and church ministry leader.
- Caleb later transitioned into corporate sales leadership and worked as Vice President of Sales.
- The family resided at 932 Cunningham Court in Tipp City, Ohio.
- Caleb and Ashley Flynn owned and occupied the home.
March 2024
- Caleb Flynn and Alleigha Botner’s relationship shifted from friendship to a romantic relationship. Caleb began communicating with Botner more frequently after she ended another relationship, initially through iMessage games. Source
May 2024
- Caleb and Botner began a sexual relationship. Botner was 20 years old when the affair began, while Caleb was in his late 30s. Source
- Caleb and Botner met at Botner’s apartment and other locations, including Cincinnati, Columbus, Indiana, and a Chipotle parking lot. Source
- Caleb showed Botner where he kept his handgun, inside the center console of his vehicle. Source
Summer 2024
- Ashley Flynn discovered communications between Caleb and Botner after messages appeared on Caleb’s iPad. Caleb subsequently deleted the iMessages. Source
- Ashley also discovered a photograph of Botner’s hand wearing a ring. Botner had told Caleb that she wanted him to become her husband. Source
August 2024
- Caleb told Botner he planned to leave Ashley. Over the following months, Caleb repeatedly gave Botner new deadlines for when he said he would leave his marriage, including October, November, December, and January. Source
September–October 2024
- Caleb and Botner moved their communications to GroupMe. Over the following year, they exchanged more than 100,000 messages, averaging hundreds of messages per day. Source
- Caleb sent Botner photographs and videos from inside the Flynn home, including videos showing when no one else was home. Source
February 11, 2025
- Caleb told Botner that he wanted to take his daughters, run away, and never return. Botner responded that she had similar feelings when seeing happy couples and told Caleb that her love for him did not compare to her feelings for anyone else. Source
February 18, 2025
- Caleb sent Botner messages expressing hatred toward Ashley and said he hated talking about her. Source
February 23, 2025
- Caleb complained about Ashley in messages with Botner while they discussed another man named Will, whom Caleb was reportedly insecure about. Source
February 27, 2025
- Caleb again told Botner that he hated Ashley and wanted nothing to do with her. Source
March 2, 2025
- Botner wrote that she hated Ashley. Caleb responded that he hated Ashley “more, way more.” Source
March 8, 2025
- Caleb and Botner again discussed their hatred of Ashley. Caleb said he wanted Ashley gone. Source
August 2025
- Following a cruise Caleb took with Ashley for their 15th anniversary, Caleb told Botner that he had stayed awake thinking of ways he could kill Ashley without going to jail. He also said that if he could kill Ashley without going to hell, he would do it. Source
- Ashley contacted Botner and asked to meet for coffee to discuss Caleb. Botner did not meet with her, telling Ashley she was busy. Source
Late 2025
- Caleb and Botner obtained matching Harry Potter lightning-bolt tattoos. Botner’s tattoo was on her arm. Caleb placed his tattoo in his armpit so Ashley could not see it. Source
- Botner established a final deadline for Caleb to leave Ashley, telling him that their relationship would end if he did not do so by January 11, 2026. Source
January 11, 2026
- Botner ended her relationship with Caleb after he failed to leave Ashley by the deadline she had given him. The two stopped communicating. Source
January 2026
- While Botner was away on a solo trip to Florida with her dog, her cellphone and laptop went missing. Her damaged cellphone could not be repaired. Source
- Caleb and Botner had discussed using burner phones to conceal their communications. Caleb proposed paying cash for his burner phone. Source
February 14, 2026
- Caleb and Botner resumed communicating after having no contact since January 11. Botner told Caleb she had a date with another man. Caleb became upset, and Botner reiterated that she would not resume their relationship unless he acted quickly to leave Ashley. Source
- Caleb told Botner he was finally free of Ashley and was actually leaving her. Botner initially did not believe him. Source
February 15, 2026
- Caleb told Botner that he planned to tell Ashley’s parents, Todd and Jill Smith, and his daughters that he was leaving Ashley. He also planned to contact someone named Dave about employment, arrange a hotel, and move out. Caleb said he had attempted to speak with Ashley’s parents that day and planned to speak with them on February 16. Source
- At 6:54 p.m., surveillance video captured Botner’s Jeep leaving the residence where she was house-sitting as she went to her mother’s home. Source
- Botner sent Caleb screenshots containing information about divorce, custody, and infidelity, including information about deleting messages and what evidence Ashley would need to establish that Caleb had been unfaithful. Caleb and Botner had discussed deleting their communications since early in their relationship. Source
- Botner told Caleb she was concerned that disclosure of their affair could cost her job. Caleb told her the separation was happening. Source
- Caleb sent Botner a message stating, “I choose you. I’m free,” and indicated that actions would follow on February 16. Source
- Later that night, Caleb texted Botner, “Good night. Tomorrow’s a big day. Gotta get to bed.” Source
- At 11:50 p.m., Botner left her mother’s home and returned to the residence where she was house-sitting. Source
- Early morning hours: Ashley Flynn was inside the residence with her husband, Caleb Flynn, and their two daughters, who were asleep in bedrooms.
- Two vehicles were present in the garage: a 2024 Ford truck and a 2016 Chrysler.
- According to Caleb Flynn, a handgun was stored inside the center console of the 2024 Ford truck.
- 12:00 a.m., surveillance video captured Botner’s Jeep returning to the residence where she was house-sitting and driving into the garage. Investigators reviewed additional surveillance footage and found no indication that her vehicle left again during the relevant overnight period. Source
- 2:31 a.m.: Tipp City Police were dispatched to the residence for a reported burglary in progress.
- The reporting party was identified as Caleb Flynn.
- Caleb Flynn told dispatch that someone broke into the home.
- Caleb Flynn reported that the garage door was open.
- Caleb Flynn told dispatch his wife had been shot in the head and was not responding.
- 2:40 a.m.: Detective Sgt. Morgan was contacted regarding the homicide scene.
- Sgt. Morgan contacted the responding Sgt. Rismiller.
- 2:40 a.m. to 2:45 a.m.: Sgt. Rismiller arrived and cleared the residence for threats.
- Sgt. Rismiller located Ashley Flynn in the master bedroom on the northeast side of the house.
- Ashley Flynn was lying in bed with a gunshot wound to the head.
- Medics were instructed not to enter to preserve forensic integrity.
- Two shell casings were located on the bedroom floor near the foot of the bed.
- The side garage door on the north side of the home was open.
- Based on these observations, the responding officer determined a homicide likely occurred.
- 2:45 a.m.: Caleb Flynn provided written consent for officers to enter the home.
- Detectives observed Ashley Flynn lying in bed in the master bedroom with a gunshot wound to the head and two shell casings near the foot of the bed.
- Detectives observed the side garage door open.
- A large refrigerator was positioned directly in front of the garage door.
- The refrigerator placement would have required pushing to open the door.
- 3:00 a.m., Caleb called Ashley’s mother, Jill Smith, and told her Ashley was dead and that someone had broken into the home and murdered her. Jill drove to the residence, where Caleb came outside and hugged her. Source
- 3:15 a.m. to 3:30 a.m.: Garage inspection revealed the 2024 Ford truck was present and the center console was open.
- Caleb Flynn had previously told officers he stored his handgun there.
- 3:30 a.m.: Officers determined the two daughters remained asleep in bedrooms, had not awakened during the shooting, and were physically unharmed.
- 3:30 a.m. to 4:00 a.m.: Detective Morgan contacted the Ohio Bureau of Criminal Investigation and requested a forensic processing team.
- Evidence processing was initiated.
- 4:00 a.m.: The victim’s mother arrived at the residence, a Miami County Victim Witness was present, and the children were safely removed from the home.
- 4:28 a.m.: Caleb Flynn agreed voluntarily to speak with investigators and was transported to the Tipp City Police Department.
- 8:00 a.m., Botner learned Ashley had been killed after receiving a message asking whether she had heard what happened to Mrs. Flynn. Caleb subsequently sent Botner a news article about Ashley’s death. Botner sent Caleb a message questioning whether what had happened was real and then deleted it because she feared investigators would discover their affair. Source
- 9:57 a.m., surveillance video captured Botner’s vehicle traveling to Todd and Jill Smith’s residence. Source
February 17, 2026
- 7:10 a.m., Dr. Bryan Casto performed Ashley’s autopsy. Ashley had two closely positioned entrance gunshot wounds to the back-right side of her head. The bullets traveled along parallel paths through her skull. One projectile exited her head and reentered her left arm near the elbow, where a deformed full-metal-jacket bullet was recovered. Source
- Ashley’s cause of death was multiple gunshot wounds to the head. Investigators could not determine the firing distance because there was no soot, stippling, or thermal injury. Toxicology detected Prozac and an elevated level of melatonin. Source
Forensic and Crime Scene Findings, arrest.
- Ashley Flynn was shot in bed.
- Two shell casings were recovered near the foot of the bed.
- The firearm was identified as a 9mm handgun.
- The garage side door was open.
- A refrigerator blocked the garage door.
- The handgun was previously stored in the suspect’s vehicle console.
- The children were asleep and unharmed.
- Investigators searched the woods behind the Flynn residence and used a high-powered magnet to search storm-drain areas for the missing firearm. Nothing of evidentiary significance was recovered. Source
- Information obtained from Ashley’s aunt, Karen Jess, alerted investigators to the possibility of another woman in Caleb’s life. Investigators subsequently learned from Ashley’s friend Alexa Vagedes that Ashley had confided in her about a possible relationship between Caleb and Botner. Source
- 5:07 p.m., Caleb Flynn was booked into the Miami County Jail on preliminary charges of murder, felonious assault, and tampering with evidence in connection with Ashley Flynn’s death.
- 5:45 p.m., Tipp City Police Chief Greg Adkins announced that Caleb had been arrested. Source
- Miami County Municipal Court filed an official criminal complaint.
- The complaint states Caleb Flynn purposely caused Ashley Flynn’s death.
- The complaint states the death occurred during the morning hours of February 16, 2026.
- The weapon used was a 9mm handgun.
- The complaint states the defendant had the firearm under his control.
- The murder charge was filed under Ohio Revised Code 2903.02(A).
- Caleb Flynn appeared for arraignment.
- He pleaded not guilty.
- Bond was set at $2,000,000.
- A preliminary hearing was scheduled.
- The case remained pending prosecution.
- Investigators located Botner at her mother’s home in Tipp City, Ohio. Investigators took Botner and her sister to the Tipp City Police Department. During an interview lasting about 2½ hours, Botner initially denied having an intimate or sexual relationship with Caleb before eventually providing information about the relationship. Source
- Investigators continued searching for the missing firearm, including underneath vehicles at the Flynn residence and inside the attic. The firearm was not recovered. Source
February 23, 2026
- Fifteen officers conducted a grid search extending toward the high school while looking for the missing firearm. Nothing of evidentiary significance was recovered. Investigators also reviewed firearm-purchase records and found no firearm purchases attributed to Caleb or Ashley in the records examined. Source
February 24, 2026
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Caleb Flynn filed a waiver of time requirements in Miami County Municipal Court. The filing states that he had been advised of his speedy trial rights under the U.S. and Ohio Constitutions and Ohio law, and that he voluntarily waived those rights personally and through counsel. The waiver applied to the charged offense and potential related offenses, including murder, aggravated murder, felony murder, felonious assault, tampering with evidence, intimidation of a witness, obstructing justice, and firearm specifications. Court docket information also showed a waiver for the preliminary hearing, originally scheduled for February 26, 2026.
February 26, 2026
- Investigators interviewed Botner a second time at the Tipp City Police Department with an attorney present. During the second interview, Botner provided substantially more information about her relationship with Caleb. Source
March 3, 2026
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A motion for a domestic violence temporary protection order was filed in Miami County Municipal Court by court-appointed guardians for Ashley and Caleb Flynn’s minor children. The filing asked the court to issue the order as a condition of Caleb Flynn’s pretrial release if he were released before trial.
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Defense attorneys also filed a motion seeking to seal future case filings until the case was resolved and to restrict law enforcement agencies and the Miami-Dade County Prosecutor’s Office from releasing further information publicly while the case was pending. Source
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The children’s guardians’ attorneys also filed motions involving the children and financial matters. Public reporting stated that the temporary protection order request was meant to protect the children physically and preserve their financial security, and that court documents showed Ashley Flynn had a life insurance policy with Caleb Flynn listed as beneficiary. Source
March 18, 2026
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The Miami County Prosecutor’s Office announced that a Miami County grand jury indicted Caleb Flynn in the murder of Ashley Flynn. The indictment moved the case from Miami County Municipal Court to Miami County Common Pleas Court. Source
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The indictment included 11 counts: one count of aggravated murder, three counts of murder, two counts of felonious assault, three counts of tampering with evidence, and two counts of intimidation of an attorney, victim, or witness in a criminal case. Prosecutor Paul Watkins stated that if convicted, Caleb Flynn would face life in prison without the possibility of parole. Source
March 19, 2026
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Caleb Flynn was arraigned in Miami County Common Pleas Court after the grand jury indictment. His bond was increased to $3.5 million cash only, according to the Miami County Clerk of Courts’ Office. Source
March 24, 2026
- Investigators returned to the Flynn residence and recovered an AirPods case. No earbuds were inside. Investigators also requested records associated with two email addresses discovered on Caleb’s mobile devices. Source
March 30, 2026
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Caleb Flynn appeared for a pretrial hearing before Judge Jeannine N. Pratt. The court scheduled trial to begin on April 28, 2026, after defense counsel said Flynn was not planning to waive his speedy trial right. Source
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During the same hearing, the defense had a pending request for a gag or non-dissemination order, but the court continued that issue to an April 6 status conference. Judge Pratt asked the attorneys to continue not speaking publicly about the case in the meantime. Source
April 6, 2026
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Judge Pratt disclosed a potential conflict issue because she had recently hired a staff attorney who previously worked for the Miami County Prosecutor’s Office during part of the investigation period. According to public reporting, the staff attorney had conducted legal research related to a public records request in Flynn’s case but was not otherwise involved. Flynn agreed under oath to waive the issue and allow Judge Pratt to remain on the case. Source
April 10, 2026
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Caleb Flynn appeared in court for a hearing that had been expected to address the defense’s request to restrict public access to court exhibits and documents. Defense attorney Patrick Mulligan withdrew the motion, so the judge did not hear arguments or rule on it. Source
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Public reporting also stated that Mulligan told Judge Pratt he did not intend to file any other motions before the then-scheduled April 28 trial date. Source
April 14, 2026
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Prosecutors asked to delay the April 28 trial by four days after receiving an expert report on April 11 and providing it to the defense the same day. The state argued that Ohio law required disclosure of expert reports at least 21 days before trial. The defense opposed the delay, but Judge Pratt granted it. Source
April 23, 2026
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Caleb Flynn appeared at a pretrial hearing where the defense asked to take the jury to the Flynn residence. Defense attorney Patrick Mulligan said he wanted jurors to see the home’s layout, including ingress and egress and the location of rooms. Prosecutor Paul Watkins did not object to a jury view. Source
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Judge Pratt advised Flynn that he had a right to attend the jury view. After being sworn in, Flynn waived his right to attend. Source
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The parties also addressed child-witness issues involving the couple’s children, ages 9 and 12. Prosecutors sought protections for the children during testimony under Ohio law. The defense opposed the motion because it did not specify exactly what protections the state wanted. Judge Pratt took the issue under advisement. Source
April 24, 2026
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Flynn’s defense team filed a motion seeking a three-week continuance of the May 4 trial date. The defense said it had hired an expert to evaluate part of the state’s discovery and needed the delay to comply with the 21-day expert disclosure rule. Source
April 28, 2026
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Judge Pratt granted the defense’s request for a second trial delay. Flynn had been scheduled to go to trial on May 4, but the court allowed the continuance after the defense hired an expert. Source
April 29, 2026
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The court held a hearing to reschedule the trial after granting the second continuance. Source
May 7, 2026
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Judge Pratt set a new trial date for September 17, 2026. The trial is expected to last about two weeks. Source
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At the scheduling conference, the court also discussed the jury’s view. Both sides were expected to provide the court by May 15 with a list of specific parts of the Flynn residence they wanted the jury to view. Source
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Judge Pratt also noted that the child-testimony issue remained under advisement and that the court would issue a decision. Source
February 26, 2026
- Investigators interviewed Botner a second time at the Tipp City Police Department. An attorney was present. During the second interview, Botner provided substantially more information about her relationship with Caleb. Source
September 17, 2026
- Jury selection began in Caleb Flynn’s trial in Miami County Common Pleas Court. Source
September 18, 2026
- Opening statements began. Prosecutors disclosed that investigators recovered more than 100,000 messages exchanged between Caleb and Botner during the year preceding Ashley’s death. The defense acknowledged the affair but disputed that the relationship and messages established that Caleb murdered Ashley. Source
- The jury visited the Flynn residence to view the layout of the home. Source
September 21, 2026
- BCI Special Agent David Hammond detailed the garage-door evidence. Investigators found no exterior pry or tool marks, the latch and deadbolt remained functional, and wood chips were located inside the garage. Hammond concluded the scene appeared staged to resemble a burglary. Source
- Crime-scene technician Holly Ryczek reported that a master-bedroom light switch tested presumptively positive for blood. Investigators also collected touch-DNA samples from bedroom door handles, bathroom fixtures, and the Ford F-150 center-console release. Source
September 22, 2026
- Evidence presented in court showed Caleb paid about $7 per month for Snoopreport, a service used to monitor activity associated with public Instagram accounts. Source
September 22, 2026
- DNA testing identified Caleb’s DNA on the exterior garage doorknob, Ford center-console release, a stain on his shorts, the master-bedroom light-switch stain, and a master-bathroom sink handle. A DNA mixture from the bathroom sink drain was consistent with Caleb and Ashley. Ashley was excluded as the source of the blood stain recovered from the master-bedroom light switch. Investigators reported finding no foreign DNA. Source
- Firearms examination established that the two 9mm Luger cartridge casings recovered from the bedroom had been fired from the same firearm. A NIBIN search produced no match. Because the firearm has not been recovered, examiners could not identify its specific make or model. Source
- A latent-print examiner identified Caleb’s palm prints on the exterior door frame. Source
- Financial records showed a recurring $6.99 charge for Snoopreport, an online service used to monitor activity associated with public Instagram accounts. Source
- Records established a $10,000 Banner Life Insurance policy on Ashley with Caleb listed as the sole beneficiary. Source
- Ashley and her sister, Kayla Keyt, were expected eventually to become equal owners of their father’s business. Caleb was aware of projections showing potential future annual earnings of $300,000 to $400,000 if the business continued growing. Source
September 23, 2026
- Investigators detailed extensive searches for the missing firearm, including searches of the Flynn residence, garage, attic, surrounding property, and a farm field using metal detectors. The firearm used to kill Ashley has not been recovered. Source
- A forensic tool-mark examiner compared damage from the garage-door area with tools recovered from the Flynn garage. Test marks made with a hammer were found consistent with a mark on wood-chip evidence recovered during the investigation. Other comparisons were inconclusive. Source
- Additional evidence detailed Caleb and Botner’s relationship beginning in 2024, their more than 100,000 messages, repeated discussions about Caleb leaving Ashley, deletion of communications, movement between messaging applications, discussion of burner phones, and Caleb’s repeated statements that he wanted Ashley gone or dead. Source
Trial
- Defendant: Caleb Carl Flynn
- Victim: Ashley Elizabeth Flynn
- Charge: Murder
- Weapon: 9mm handgun
- Location: 932 Cunningham Court, Tipp City, Ohio
September 17, 2026
- Jury selection began in Miami County Common Pleas Court in Troy, Ohio, in the murder trial of Caleb Flynn. Flynn is charged with one count of aggravated murder, three counts of murder, two counts of felonious assault, and three counts of tampering with evidence in connection with the February 16, 2026 death of his wife, Ashley Flynn. Prosecutors dropped two previously filed intimidation charges before trial. Flynn has pleaded not guilty. Source
September 18, 2026
- Opening statements began. Prosecutors alleged Caleb shot Ashley twice in the head while she was sleeping, removed the 9mm handgun normally kept in his truck, damaged the garage entry area to make the scene appear to be a burglary, and then called 911 claiming an intruder had killed his wife. The defense argued that Caleb was sleeping elsewhere in the home with the couple’s daughters and awoke to discover Ashley dead. Source
- Prosecutors told jurors that Caleb and Alleigha Botner exchanged more than 100,000 messages during the year before Ashley’s death. The state presented messages in which Caleb expressed hatred toward Ashley, discussed wanting her gone, and discussed killing her without going to jail. The defense acknowledged Caleb’s affair and the disturbing messages but argued that the messages did not establish that Caleb murdered Ashley. Source
- Jurors were taken to the Flynn residence in Tipp City to view the home and its layout. Source
September 21, 2026
- Ohio Bureau of Criminal Investigation Special Agent David Hammond described processing the Flynn residence for approximately 12 hours on February 16. Investigators examined the doors and windows that could have provided an entry point into the home. Hammond found no signs of forced entry from outside the residence. Source
- Hammond focused on damage near the garage entry area. Investigators found wood chips inside the garage but did not find corresponding exterior pry or tool marks indicating that someone had forced entry from outside. Hammond concluded that the scene appeared to have been staged to resemble a burglary. Source
- Jurors were shown crime-scene photographs and evidence collected from the Flynn home. Investigators removed tools from the residence for examination and searched storm drains and other areas while attempting to locate the missing firearm. Source
- Evidence collected from the master bedroom included two 9mm cartridge casings. Investigators also recovered bullet and jacket fragments from the pillow where Ashley had been sleeping. Source
- A stain on the master-bedroom light switch tested presumptively positive for blood. Investigators also collected DNA evidence from multiple locations, including door handles, bathroom fixtures, and the center-console release inside Caleb’s Ford F-150. Source
- Dr. Bryan Casto detailed Ashley’s autopsy findings. Ashley had two closely positioned gunshot entrance wounds to the back-right side of her head, with the bullets traveling along generally parallel paths. One projectile exited Ashley’s head and reentered her left arm near the elbow, where a deformed full-metal-jacket bullet was recovered. Her cause of death was multiple gunshot wounds to the head. Source
- No soot, stippling, or thermal injury was identified around the gunshot wounds, preventing the medical examiner from determining the firearm’s exact distance from Ashley when it was fired. Source
September 22, 2026
- Ashley’s mother, Jill Smith, said she last spoke with Ashley on February 13 while Ashley was preparing a Galentine’s Day celebration for the couple’s daughters. Jill believed Ashley and Caleb’s marriage was good, although she believed it may have become strained during the previous six months. Ashley had not confided in her about marital problems. Source
- Jill described receiving Caleb’s call at approximately 3:00 a.m. on February 16. Caleb told her Ashley was dead after someone broke into the house and shot her. Jill drove to the Flynn residence, where Caleb came outside and hugged her. Source
- Ashley’s sister, Kayla Keyt, said she had considered Caleb a brother and saw him regularly because they both worked for the family business. Kayla handled accounting and bookkeeping, while Caleb worked in sales. Ashley and Kayla were expected eventually to receive equal ownership of their father’s business. Source
- Ashley’s family initially believed Caleb’s account that an intruder had entered the home and killed Ashley. Their concerns developed as they reconsidered the circumstances surrounding her death and later learned investigators had uncovered Caleb’s affair with Botner. Source
- DNA testing showed Caleb as the sole DNA contributor on the exterior garage doorknob. The Ford F-150 center-console release contained a mixture in which Caleb was the major contributor. The remaining DNA in that mixture was insufficient for comparison. Source
- A stain from inside the right pocket of Caleb’s shorts tested positive for blood and produced Caleb’s DNA profile. Ashley was excluded from that sample. No blood was found on Caleb’s T-shirt, and no stains were available for testing on his sweatshirt. Source
- The blood-positive stain recovered from the master-bedroom light switch produced Caleb’s DNA profile. Ashley was excluded as the source of that stain. The forensic scientist explained that DNA testing cannot determine when DNA was deposited on an item. Source
- Firearms examination determined that the two 9mm Luger cartridge casings recovered from the bedroom had been fired from the same firearm. The firearm itself has not been recovered. Source
- Jurors also heard fingerprint evidence concerning prints recovered during the investigation, including Caleb’s palm prints from the exterior door-frame area. Source
September 23, 2026
- FBI Special Agent Sarah Deamron described how investigators identified and interviewed Alleigha Botner. Investigators interviewed Botner at the Tipp City Police Department on February 20 and again on February 26. An attorney was present with Botner during the second interview. Source
- FBI firearms and toolmark examiner Sarah Stuchell was called to address evidence associated with the missing firearm and toolmark evidence collected during the investigation. Source
- At approximately 1:38 p.m., Botner took the stand. Botner said she met Caleb when she was 20 years old and working as an intern at Christian Life Church. Their relationship later developed into a sexual and romantic relationship. Source
- Botner described her extensive relationship with Caleb and their communications while Caleb remained married to Ashley. The relationship included discussions about Caleb leaving his marriage, their future together, and Caleb’s repeated delays in leaving Ashley. Source
- Botner described Caleb’s statements about Ashley, including messages in which he expressed hatred toward his wife and discussed wanting Ashley gone or dead. The communications included Caleb saying he had stayed awake thinking of ways to kill Ashley without going to jail. Source
- Botner described ending the relationship after Caleb repeatedly failed to leave Ashley. The two later resumed communicating shortly before Ashley’s death. Source
- Jurors were shown communications from the hours before Ashley was killed in which Caleb told Botner he was leaving Ashley and was “free.” One message stated, “Actions will come tomorrow, February 16.” Source
- Botner said that she once loved Caleb but that her feelings had changed. When asked how she felt about him now, she said, “I hate him.” Source
September 24, 2026
- Alleigha Botner returned to the witness stand for a second day. Prosecutors presented 34 volumes containing more than 100,000 messages exchanged between Botner and Caleb Flynn during their relationship. The messages documented their affair, repeated arguments about Caleb remaining married to Ashley, and deadlines Botner gave him to leave his wife. Source
- Botner became emotional while reading messages in which she had expressed wanting Ashley dead. She said she regretted sending them. In another exchange, Botner told Caleb she was not asking him to kill Ashley and wanted him to proceed with a divorce instead. Source
- During cross-examination, Botner acknowledged that she had not been truthful during her initial FBI interview on February 20. She said she initially did not believe Caleb had killed Ashley but changed her opinion by her second interview on February 26. Source
- Botner acknowledged searching the internet for unsolved homicides after Ashley’s death. She also confirmed that investigators had not searched her apartment or vehicle, collected her fingerprints or DNA, or confiscated her prepaid phone. Botner has not been charged in connection with Ashley’s death. Source
- Botner acknowledged that she sometimes asked Caleb to reassure her that he hated Ashley. She conceded that Caleb might have exaggerated his hatred toward Ashley to make Botner feel better. Source
- Botner’s testimony concluded after nearly seven hours across two days. Source
- Ohio Bureau of Criminal Investigation digital forensic examiner Joseph Wilhelf examined Caleb’s iPhone and associated device data. The phone’s browsing history had been deleted for part of February 15, and private browsing had used private browsing. Caleb uninstalled GroupMe and Instagram on February 16. Investigators recovered no messages between Caleb and Ashley from the phone. Source
- Wilhelph presented Apple Watch and iPhone activity from the morning of Ashley’s death. The Apple Watch recorded 105 steps between 2:18:37 a.m. and 2:28:11 a.m. Caleb’s phone subsequently recorded 346 steps between 2:30:48 a.m. and 2:37:34 a.m. The 911 call connected at 2:31:05 a.m. Source
- Caleb’s iPhone was locked at 1:07 a.m. and remained charging until 2:30 a.m., when it was unplugged and unlocked using Face ID. The examiner identified changes in audio output involving AirPods at 2:17 a.m. and 2:29 a.m. He explained that AirPods can connect when placed in someone’s ears but may also activate when handled or placed in a pocket. Source
- The Apple Watch recorded Caleb’s heart rate at 1:33:03 a.m. and last recorded a heart-rate measurement at 2:10:11 a.m. No subsequent heart-rate data was recovered for the period immediately preceding the 911 call. Source
- Additional digital evidence included sleep data from Caleb’s Oura Ring, records concerning a star purchased and named for Botner, and two apparently AI-generated audio recordings related to their relationship. The jury heard the recordings. Source
- At 4:11 p.m., the judge excused the jury until 9:00 a.m. on September 25. Source
September 25, 2026
- Caleb Flynn’s trial was scheduled to resume at 9:00 a.m. in Miami County Common Pleas Court, with further testimony expected. Source
September 25, 2026
- Ohio Bureau of Criminal Investigation Special Agent Joseph Wilhelm completed testimony concerning digital evidence recovered from Caleb Flynn’s devices. Data from Caleb’s Apple Watch, iPhone and AirPods showed movement during portions of the period when Caleb said he had been sleeping, including between the time he stopped responding to Alleigha Botner’s messages at 12:45 a.m. and his 911 call at approximately 2:30 a.m. Source
- FBI Special Agent Andrea Kinzig addressed a tip alleging that a man named Christopher Hill had been hired to kill Ashley. The FBI confirmed that Hill and Caleb had worked on a housing rehabilitation project at Wright-Patterson Air Force Base. Investigators interviewed the person identified as the source of the allegation, who said no one had actually told him a murder-for-hire plot existed and that he had offered the idea only as conjecture. He also said he did not believe the theory was true. Source
- The defense questioned the extent of the FBI’s investigation into the Christopher Hill tip. Kinzig said investigators could not determine which Christopher Hill was being referenced because the name was too common and, based on the information obtained from the source, did not attempt to contact him. Source
- Prosecutors presented messages between Caleb and Ashley that appeared affectionate and included the couple telling each other they loved one another. The defense used the messages while questioning Kinzig about evidence that appeared inconsistent with the prosecution’s portrayal of the marriage. Source
- Surveillance footage from a residence on Hurst Drive was presented to the jury. The footage showed Botner’s vehicle arriving and leaving the residence where she was house-sitting during the night of February 15 and morning of February 16. Source
- Jordan Hansen, lead pastor at Christian Life Center, was called by the prosecution. Christian Life Center was the Flynn family’s church and the location where Caleb and Botner met while Botner worked as a worship leader. Source
- Tipp City Police Detective Sgt. Mike Morgan described entering Ashley’s bedroom and seeing two cartridge casings on the floor and Ashley lying in bed with a head injury. Morgan said Ashley appeared to have been asleep and was lying in a resting position wearing night clothes. Source
- Morgan described the open side door in the garage and a refrigerator positioned against it. He said the damage around the deadbolt was not consistent with someone forcing the door open from outside. Source
- Prosecutors began playing Caleb’s February 16 police interviews for the jury. In his first voluntary interview, which began at approximately 4:28 a.m., Caleb said he had awakened after hearing gunshots, found Ashley unresponsive in the bedroom and called 911. He said he initially shook Ashley by her foot or calf before turning on the light and seeing what had happened. Source
- Proceedings ended shortly after 3:00 p.m. with an additional lengthy police interview still to be shown to the jury. Judge Jeannine Pratt scheduled testimony to resume at 8:45 a.m. on September 28. Source
September 28, 2026
- Prosecutors continued presenting Caleb’s recorded interviews with investigators, including his February 19 interview, the day he was arrested. When Chief Deputy Steve Lord directly asked Caleb whether he had killed Ashley, Caleb denied involvement. When questioned about the missing handgun normally kept in his truck, Caleb repeatedly maintained that he had not touched his wife. Source
- The recorded interviews showed Caleb telling investigators that he had left the marital bedroom because his coughing was bothering Ashley. He said he slept on the couch, was awakened by the dogs, checked on the couple’s daughters and fell asleep in their room before being awakened by gunshots. Source
- Detective Sgt. Mike Morgan said Caleb told investigators that after discovering Ashley had been shot, he went to the living room to retrieve his cellphone and called 911 within approximately two to five minutes. Source
- The defense questioned Morgan about evidence investigators did not collect. Morgan acknowledged that Caleb was not tested for gunshot residue. Morgan explained that investigators did not want to rush to judgment because Caleb had reported entering the bedroom within seconds of the shooting. Source
- The prosecution rested after presenting more than three dozen witnesses over seven days of testimony. Source
- The defense rested without calling any witnesses. Caleb did not testify in his own defense. Source
- Prosecutors filed a motion to dismiss Counts 10 and 11, two misdemeanor counts of intimidation of an attorney, victim or witness in a criminal case. Source
September 29, 2026
- Closing arguments began after the jury was seated at 9:00 a.m. Prosecutors argued that the evidence should be considered collectively, including Caleb’s affair and messages, the missing 9mm handgun, the alleged staged entry point, digital-device activity, and the absence of evidence establishing that an intruder entered and fled the residence. Source
- The defense argued that the prosecution had not proved Caleb killed Ashley beyond a reasonable doubt, emphasizing that the murder weapon was never recovered and challenging the absence of direct forensic evidence identifying Caleb as the shooter. Source
- At 10:48 a.m., closing arguments concluded. The court recessed briefly before jury instructions. Source
- At 11:13 a.m., court resumed and Judge Jeannine Pratt began instructing the jury before deliberations. Source
- Judge Jeannine Pratt formally granted the prosecution’s motion to dismiss two misdemeanor counts of intimidation of an attorney, victim, or witness without prejudice. Source
- Judge Jeannine Pratt formally granted the prosecution’s motion to dismiss two misdemeanor counts of intimidation of an attorney, victim or witness without prejudice. Source
- Following closing arguments and jury instructions, the case was submitted to the jury for deliberations. Source
- After deliberating for a little more than two hours, the jury reached a verdict. Source
- Caleb Flynn was found guilty on all nine counts submitted to the jury: one count of aggravated murder, three counts of murder, two counts of felonious assault, and three counts of tampering with evidence. Source
- Caleb initially remained composed as the guilty verdicts were announced, but became visibly emotional and began crying as the court continued reading the verdicts. After the jury left the courtroom, he lowered his head to the defense table and sobbed. Source
- Caleb was handcuffed and taken from the courtroom following the verdict. Source
October 5, 2026.
- Judge Pratt scheduled sentencing for October 5, 2026. Ashley Flynn’s family will be permitted to provide victim impact statements at sentencing. Caleb faces a possible sentence of life in prison without the possibility of parole. Source
911 Call
911 CALL
Caleb Flynn 911 Call
Caleb Flynn called 911, reporting a possible burglary and the shooting of Ashley Flynn.
Source: Miami County Dispatch 911 audio, February 16, 2026.
Text Messages
Caleb Flynn & Alleigha Botner
iMessage · messages read in court by Alleigha Botner
Sunday, February 9, 2025
Alleigha
I want you to know that I completely empathize with you and know how you feel, especially when it comes to things that seem and look obvious and that don’t make sense. I understand that this situation is that way. I just need you to believe me with all your heart and without a single doubt. I love you so much that I have done that countless times for you. Our situation sucks tremendously and things/thoughts are bound to happen with what we’re dealt. I love you so much and I would never do anything to hurt you. There’s also no way in hell that I could see somebody else. Like I said, it makes me want to throw up and die just thinking about someone else. I only want you. And I meant it when I said we need to find a way because I am hopeless and lifeless without you. I don’t have purpose without you. All I see and all I want is you. Please find a way. Please, I can deal with this. I can’t deal with this pain anymore. Send me a pic of you and Ava napping together, please. I get so scared you’re napping in bed because I know Douche always takes naps. Why not just on the couch? Of course, fine if you’re with your girls, but makes me think Douche is there too with Alyssa.
Tuesday, February 11, 2025
Alleigha
Can I be honest with two things I’m worried about coming up? Todd and Jill sending you on a Valentine’s Day date. I know this will happen and I know Douche will want some want to do something for it. And her birthday is coming up. Yes, I know when her birthday is. I’m so nervous about these two things. With how honest we’re being with each other, will you seriously promise me to be 100% honest if Todd and Jill try to send you guys on a date? And what ends up happening? Please don’t keep that from me just to protect my heart. Keeping it from me will make it so much worse. And can you promise me you won’t get her anything for her birthday or do anything for her? My thoughts are that you might just so she won’t be suspicious. And if you go to bed early that night, that would be very suspicious. Just know I’m super edgy and antsy for these two things and need your affirmation about both. Really need you to tell me about Valentine’s stuff and need you to promise me about her birthday.
You keep asking me would you even tell me if he messaged you, etc. Would you even tell me if they sent y’all on a date? Or if you did something sweet for her birthday. What did you do for her birthday last year? Please be honest. It was before us, so just be honest. Like if I were to ask her, what would she say? I will stop spiraling. I just need to feel better about these two things. Have there been any Valentine’s traditions every year, you getting her flowers, or anything else? Please do your best to answer all these.
Caleb
Why can’t it be you? Why couldn’t I have met you and married you and had kids with you – spent a life of happiness with you?
Alleigha
Oh Lover
Caleb
I want to take my girls and run away and never come back
Alleigha
I have the same gut wrenching thoughts when I see families, happy couples, etc. It’s honestly the worse – it makes me want to isolate myself seeing all these people have what I want with you Please baby, I’ll do this in a heartbeat, freaking leave it all My Love for you compares to no other woman’s love for a man I’d do anything
Caleb
I need her to die, to cheat again, to leave I need you
Friday, February 14, 2025
Alleigha
Sweetheart, I love you. I also want you to know I’m feeling a little in my head about Ashley. Have you said anything to her today? Has she wished you happy Valentine’s Day? Please be honest. Are you going to be home at all before you leave? And will you be seeing her? Have her parents mentioned anything about rescheduling date night? Has she has she said anything at all? I want you to know that I might be checking on Instagram periodically today just in case she posts or something. I just need to Doesn’t mean I’m getting Instagram back. Just need to see if she posts anything about you for my peace of mind.
Goodness. I’ve stalked both of your Instagrams and both you used to post each other all the time for Valentine’s. I trust you, but it’s like it’s like how you want to see if anyone has messaged me on Instagram and such. I love you and I had the best morning with you. Can’t wait to text you all day and I will send you a selfie every hour if you do the same.
Sunday, February 16, 2025
Alleigha
Can you prove it to me when you’re done? Like screenshot the call and the amount of time you were on the phone.
Caleb
You don’t believe me.
Alleigha
It’s a Saturday and you’re at home with Douchebag. We have been sending and proving things to each other constantly this week. Why wouldn’t you do it with this one? It just gives me security and builds my trust like we’ve been helping each other with all week. So, let me come and get that from you.
Caleb
Sorry I’m short. I hate Douche. I want to be with my girls, but I don’t want to be anywhere near her because (1) I hate her and (2) I know it hurts you I wasn’t going on a date with her though
Tuesday, February 18, 2025
Alleigha
I’m sorry about all this and how it seems so freaking fishy, but I have explained so many times, yet you still don’t have faith in me.
How did you propose to her? I just need to know. Then I’ll stop for the night.
Caleb
I know, I know it’s horrible and I hate it more than you know. I made a decision that I fully regret solely based on what I thought would not hurt my girls. Little did I know it would hurt me the most.
Alleigha
White heart as I’m believing for that wedding day.
Caleb
because I hate her You know I hate talking about her
Good night.
Alleigha
Good night. Mmm that was awfully short. Reminded me of when we were just friends and said good night and nothing else. Ew, babe, that one stung, okay
Caleb
Babe, stop. I love you. Hope you sleep amazing.
Alleigha
It was just so fast. You see why I felt that way, though?
Wednesday, February 19, 2025
Alleigha
What do you want me to do?
Caleb
Marry me.
Alleigha
AHHHHH NO
Caleb
Kill Douche.
Alleigha
Oh man, please
Monday, February 23, 2015
Caleb
You had mentioned if I only knew what you had been through, to which I know, it’s awful. I have relentlessly apologized for my life and how it hurts you. But you know I hate her. You know I can’t stand her. You don’t hate Will. You have no problem talking about or being around him. I’m not trying to compare our situations, but you can at least take some relief knowing I can’t stand her and I will never be with her. I can’t say that about Will.
Thursday, February 27, 2025
Caleb
You know I hate Douche and want nothing with her
Sunday, March 2, 2025
Alleigha
I hate her.
Caleb
I hate her more. Way more.
Saturday, March 8, 2025
Alleigha
I hate her. I’ve never hated anyone as much as I hat her. I hate the thoughts she causes in my head.
Caleb
I’m sorry for what she does to the both of us, but mostly you. I hate her as well, and I want her gone. Don’t give her anything. We’ll continue that.
Alleigha
Good. I’d be utterly broken if I found out you did somehow.
Sunday, March 9, 2025
Caleb
I know sweetheart, I know. I don’t receive or take things as I don’t want anything she has to offer. Ever. I hate her.
Monday, March 10, 2025
Caleb
I hate Douche more than anything as I’m trapped in this twisted life, and both us hurt you in so many ways.
Alleigha
Stop. So what are you saying?
Caleb
Saying I don’t deserve you, and I want to make you happy, but I don’t make you happy
Alleigha
So you’re leaving? You’re closing this chapter? How can you think that you don’t make me happy?
Caleb
I make you hurt more than I make you happy, and can you honestly say this is what you want and what you see for your life – to have to sneak around, to not be able to Love publicly, and to hurt at all times knowing my situation? I want you, Alleigha, as my wife and the Mother of my children. What do I do? How do I escape this?
Alleigha
I don’t know Caleb, you have to find a way.
Caleb
I want her dead and gone. Is it fair to ask you to live this life with me the way we are now until I can figure this out? Be selfish and think you, not me.
Tuesday, March 11, 2025
Caleb
Just showing you I’m still up here. It would have easily been done already, but I’m milking this and staying away as long as I can because (1) I hate her and (2) I love you
Friday, March 21, 2025
Caleb
I miss you already, and I hate her with all that is in me.
Monday, March 24, 2025
Caleb
I hate her. I’ll be at the park, and I’ll be distant as ever and I’ll put all my attention on the girls but I can only take so many bathroom breaks to text you. I can’t call, as I won’t have a car this year to drive away by myself. I hate this Spring Break. I hate it. And I hate my life. I know the Lord can handle my emotions, but I’m so angry. I’ve served Him my whole life, and the one thing outside of Him and my girls that I love the most, I can’t have. Cuz she doesn’t give a rat’s ass.
Alleigha
Here loving you more than anything in the world. And you haven’t lost me yet. Caleb?
Caleb
Yes?
Alleigha
What have you been doing?
Caleb
Crying.
Alleigha
For the last 15 minutes? Baby
Caleb
Yup, crying.
Alleigha
What can I do?
Caleb
Kill her.
Wednesday, March 26, 2025
Caleb
I already miss you like crazy, and I hate her ever loving guts.
I hate her. Please remember that.
Friday, March 28, 2025
Caleb
I’ve said so many times I hate her and don’t want her here.
Saturday, March 29, 2025
Caleb
Just a lot. Douche cheated and made me feel like I wasn’t good enough for someone to stay faithful. I hate her, but that led me to be with you so I’m thankful for that, but those feelings never went away. And then we get together and I can’t give you want you need and deserve, which again, makes me feel like I’m not good enough and hearing the statements you have made the last couple of weeks, which was valid, just points to how selfish I am.
Go back and read what I said after. I said that I hate her and that led me to you, which I’m thankful for. Was she ever really good to me? No. But we did have 2 daughters and were married for 12 years before she cheated. I said that statement to you because regardless of how unhappy I was, what she did caused a lot of insecurities and mess in my head. You kept asking why I was still hurt and why it was still messing me with. Until you go through something like that, and try to understand me, and all that it did to my brain, it’s unfair to just get mad at me that I said it. I have never gone through the pains you did with your Dad or your Youth Pastor or any other thing you’ve gone through because you went through it, not me. With this, I went through this, not you. You have brought massive healing to my heart and mind, but it’s still something the enemy messes with me on. Satan doesn’t just relent on these thoughts because I am now with you. He continues. Missing you so much today. Douche is pissy like normal. The girls and I were ready to go and she was taking forever, so she got mad that she was being rushed. I hate her so much. She ruins everything. She’s not talking to me now. Thank the Lord. Can’t stop thinking about wanting to run away with you.
Sunday, March 30, 2025
Caleb
And she is not here. I’m not sure when or what she is doing. Me and the girls just ate breakfast, and are now full. I’m not getting in or taking my shirt off.
Monday, March 31, 2025
Caleb
You sent like 5 or 6 questions at a time, sorry I missed one. Yes, I can’t wait to be back and be away from here. I hate her presence.
Tuesday, April 1, 2025
Caleb
I hate her and want nothing to do with her. I’m glad you’re having a good night, and I’m not saying that sarcastically.
Saturday, April 5, 2025
Caleb
Will you just do it and leave me? I don’t know how I’m going to live with this anticipation. Knowing it’s coming is almost worse. I hate my life. I hate Douche. I hate Will. I’m miserable and have nothing to look forward to.
Alleigha
You’d rather me just do it now? You think the anticipation is worse than actually losing me?
Caleb
Nothing is better. Nothing is easier. It’s all pain for the rest of my life.
Thursday, April 10, 2025
Alleigha
Glad you’re so close to her family, and she’s so close to yours. Her entire family checked on you after your accident.
Caleb
I’m sorry that this is so hard. I didn’t delete anything so I know it’s hard to see that stuff. I hate her just as much.
Tuesday, April 15, 2025
Caleb
I’m sorry. Gosh, I’m sorry. I want her dead and gone.
Alleigha
I’d never wish that upon someone, but I have more than ever with her This affirms me so much. I love you Caleb, I just want you all to myself.
Caleb
I want all of you and not have to worry about sneaking around.
Thursday, April 17, 2025
Caleb
I’m deeply sorry for what she said. I hate her even more now for ruining my life twice. If you never want to talk to me again, I understand. I can’t control what she does, but I understand that you need to be done and never see me again.
Saturday, April 19, 2025
Caleb
I hate her too.
Sunday, April 20, 2025
Caleb
I’m not responding as I’m at church, and I could care less why she comes. I hate her and I don’t care what she does. But I’m sorry. I’m not trying to make you mad or anything.
Tuesday, April 22, 2025
Caleb
Yes, I am not nice to Douche because she cheated on me and I hate her for ruining my life. Todd, I can’t stand, and don’t get along with him, but I’m still Christ-like as I still have to work with him at this point.
Saturday, April 26, 2025
Caleb
I’m keeping my distance cleaning the garage. Cuz I hate her and I was sleeping. I think they are, yes, and like always I’ll be away from her as I hate her guts. Nothing to fake when the girls aren’t here. I’m sorry your mind is going to these places. I’m sorry it’s hard. I’m asking you to trust me. Remember my bawling in front of you, and how much I expressed that I hate her. I’m not giving her time or dates. I was up very late, as I was crying and missing you all night. I had a softball game late and got here and went to sleep shortly after, again, at the same time your friend did. Douche dropped the girls off and now we’re doing our own things, which we will continue to do.
Sunday, April 27, 2025
Caleb
I’m sorry Alleigha, I put my phone away and was with the girls. I can’t reiterate enough I hate Ashley, she doesn’t get me.
Wednesday, April 30, 2025
Caleb
You were correct. I did delete it. Contrary to what you believe, I don’t want anything to do with her on my phone. So sorry you don’t believe me. I hate her.
Friday, May 2, 2025
Caleb
I don’t want to talk about her tonight. Nor do I ever want to talk about her. I hate her.
You said something last night that resonated with me. Something to the effect of anything that we feel could take the other away from us & causes us to be so edgy and short. Douche is obviously that for you and any Young Adults or Run with Christ thing, that is it for me. The arguments we have are all rooted in that. Just sucks as we desire all of each other and complete freedom with each other that when we can’t have it, it causes that edginess, shortness, no understanding, etc. Just sucks so freaking bad there is literally no escape from these feelings as we have taken the first step in surrendering and now you’re 100% free and open to date and do whatever. So it just sucks so bad I could literally throw up thinking of you holding another man’s hand and hugging or kissing. Those thoughts and feelings make me so bitter and resentful of any Young Adults or Run With Christ thing. I’m just being transparent and honest. Any man would be a fool to not pursue you. And so those events and things you go to are so hard. I’m taken so no woman would ever approach or pursue me. You, the opposite. You’ve been asked out by several guys. You were pursued by others. Guys want you and it just sucks beyond belief. I want to know everything you do, but at the same time, I know it just kills me and it’s not healthy. It’s a constant freaking battle on my mind and heart and I know you know what I’m talking about here, but I am just affirming you again. I hate Douche. I hate her with everything. I do . Yes, I will tell you if Todd or Jill tries to send us out, and we are trying to be more obedient to and honoring to the Lord. If I don’t check here as often, please know it’s not because I’m doing anything with her. Cuz I 100% fully despise her. My word, I want to just call it quits.
Monday, May 5, 2025
Alleigha
What do you mean?
Caleb
On life.
Alleigha
Please don’t say that. It terrifies me. But I get it. I said the same. I know you wouldn’t, but the feeling is too familiar. But I thought you mean call it quits with Douche.
Caleb
I want her to gone so bad.
Alleigha
Yeah…
Caleb
Barely saw her. Got back after Church and went to exercise, then got back and she was napping. Then cleared the barn and then was here for a little bit and then went to Wal-Mart. But yes, I despise and hate her.
Friday, May 9, 2025
Caleb
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way this morning. I 100% believe the enemy will do anything he can to distort and poison our minds. He has already done it at times. He wants more than anything to cause resentment, doubt and hatred to poison our souls, to hinder us. But all I can do is assure you that I am not lying to you. I’m not sleeping in that bed. I don’t want to, nor will I ever. I’m sorry again that you’re in your head so much. I hate her. I will always hate her. And I know it’s hard knowing things, or wanting to ask about every detail. I’ve wanted to ask things as well. And my mind wanders all the time as well. But I’m sorry. I’m sorry you’re hurting and all that you have to go through with all of this.
Wednesday, May 14, 2025
Caleb
I’m sorry. I hate her, too. And honestly, I’m so mad at myself for today. It’s so freaking hard to be near you and not want to kiss or touch. But I just told you about that dream my dad had yesterday, and then today happens. I’m so freaking weak and a terrible person. I’m sorry.
Friday, May 16, 2025
Alleigha
Have a great time as a family and as Parents celebrating your daughter. I feel physically sick with this stuff. You have absolutely no idea. What a perfect amazing freaking family.
Caleb
Amazing duo?
Alleigha
Another great response to my pain and hurts and insecurities. That’s literally all you say. Yeah, Caleb, you guys plan this together. You’re doing this together as parents for your shared daughter. Do you still not understand what I go through? Can you actually make me feel seen, valued, heard, and affirmed when I’m having these moments for once? I’m hurting beyond belief today. You’ll never understand what these things are like, even if they seem small to you. Wow. I’m just going to leave you. Well, leave you be while you’re there. I hate feeling unseen and alone, especially when you and Douche are together throwing your daughter a birthday party. I explained so much earlier why this is so painful and still barely got a heartfelt response. These times are horrible, but much worse when you respond the way you do. Have a blast.
I never did that to you yesterday or anytime you’re feeling extra insecure or hurt. I checked on you so much and all of my responses were heartfelt and sweet knowing what you were going through. I can’t right now. Enjoy. Enjoy y’all’s selves. Genuinely hope Ava feels so celebrated and that you and Ashley make that happen for her TOGETHER And Caleb, when I make comments like amazing duo, it’s never against you. IT’S AGAINST THE SITUATION. Obviously, my gosh, I just need your care in these times. Will you ever really get it?
Caleb
I do care. When I was hurting yesterday, I didn’t throw out statements like that, but I should be used to that by now. I’m sorry. This sucks. I hate this is my life and this situation more than anything in the world. If I could literally kill her and not go to hell, I would do it in a heartbeat. That’s how dark and hateful I feel. I didn’t get a response from you while you were playing pickle ball for almost 3 hours. I wasn’t mad because I knew you were with people and you were busy. You get so angry with me when you don’t get a response right away or you don’t get it the way you want it. You know that I’m with Ava and her friends. I’m not around Douche and I stay away from her at all times. We did not plan this together. This is what Ava wanted and Douche scheduled it. I just show up and play. But I’m sorry it hurts. I’m sorry more than anything.
You have asked me to stop saying things about how you need another boyfriend or another man or what you can have with them. I’m asking you not to say things about me and Douche that are not true. You know I hate her ever living guts. And to say that I’ll never understand how things are. Seriously, I know more than anyone. I’m not going to argue. I haven’t done anything wrong. And if you’re angry with me for not responding sooner or anything, I’m sorry. I know it sucks. I know it more than anyone. I wish we didn’t have to live this horrendous life.
Sunday, May 18, 2025
Alleigha
It’s never a wait either, Caleb. I understand your pain and go through these things every day when you only do a few times a month when I go to young adult events and run with Christ. Think about how this would be every day. Don’t bring up how it’s different. The pain is not.
Caleb
I know it’s horrendous. That’s why I constantly tell you I hate her. Loathe her. I want her dead.
Alleigha
Imagine how much you’d explode after every day. Yet I’m still here. I’ve never said I’m done for good, no matter how frustrated I’ve been.
Sunday, May 25, 2025
Caleb
I hate Douche. You don’t hate Will. You actually admire him. I’ve seen the messages.
Thursday, May 29, 2025
Alleigha
Why cater to Ashley and what she fucking wants? I’m so done with you. You have murdered my heart… in every way. Hope you’re glad you took my virginity and also my heart and stomped all over it. Enjoy your marriage… I’m done.
Friday, June 6, 2025
Caleb
I hate her. I don’t want to spend a second without you. You know that. And so, no, you didn’t really mean this.
Thursday, June 12, 2025
Alleigha
I need you
Caleb
Please hire someone to take Douche out. I need you in my life. I need you.
Alleigha
So tempting. I can’t live without you. And I’ve had this thought so often lately. How do we figure this out? I genuinely can’t picture my future any other way. It makes me sick imagining it with anyone else.
Caleb
Gosh, I love you.
Alleigha
Life with you and loving you is so easy and just makes sense. I’ve fallen so madly in love. I don’t want to settle for anything less.
Caleb
We have to get rid of Douche. I need you. You’re my everything. My heart and soul. My best friend, my love, my better half.
Alleigha
I don’t even want to say this in a joking way anymore. We need a solution, Caleb. We need it to be me and you forever and no exceptions.
Caleb
I’ve never joked about it.
I love you, baby. I love you so much.
Alleigha
I love you, sweetie. Hi, honey bunch. Wow, been too long since we’ve been lovey and flirty, and I miss it desperately.
Sunday, June 15, 2025
Alleigha
I know you love to point out how I’m always short and not sensitive and that I don’t understand, but honestly, you have no idea how hard it is to respond to things when you just word vomit and say the things that you do. I’ll own it when I know that I’m being edgy and short. But rarely do you ever own what your mouth does in these arguments. And I’m not looking forward to tonight. I hate doing this type of stuff. You know that. I don’t even know why for a second you would say something like, “I’m looking forward to it.” That’s literally the craziest thing I’ve ever heard. You know I hate her and her family.
Wednesday, June 18, 2025
Caleb
You know I hate her and I hate talking about her. I’m sorry that I didn’t want to talk about Douche. I’m not sure I can communicate any more clearly that I hate her. She has ruined my life. Any and everything that has to do with her makes me the most furious person in the world. I know she is your biggest insecurity. You say when I am insecure about stuff that you always talk it out. And yes, I would agree you do. But those clubs have not ruined your life. They have not put you in a prison and literally crucified any possibility at a future. And so yes, they are easy to talk about with me. Talking about Douche is so different. As I said, I hate her and she has ruined and taken everything from me and so I do not want to talk about her. You know I hate her. I can’t even stand the sight of her or even the mention of her. I’m sorry, but you did push last night for me to talk about her. Sorry I wasn’t able to. It all spiraled from there. And about you putting your arm around, guys. Jeez. But anyway. I’m sorry. Unreal how you can read that message and not think I don’t hate her. Unbelievable.
Thursday, June 19, 2025
Caleb
I think it’s time we finally come to terms and be honest with ourselves about everything. You understandably hate douche, and unless she dies, cheats again, or we find a way to get rid of her, she will be around, and that will kill you in every single way.
I hate your cult, and unfortunately, that stupid thing isn’t going anywhere, and so it kills me. Side note, I share your hatred for Douche. Can actually guarantee I hate her more. And so I hate your insecurity as much as you do. My insecurity you actually love. You think highly of. You used to drive 2 ½ hours to be at. You admire. You look forward to. Super awesome there. Both these insecurities cause us to go crazy. Say things we regret. Act a way we don’t even recognize. And literally lose our minds. We have been struggling for months trying to be okay and just ignore these things. We have proved it doesn’t work. We argue constantly. And in what world is that healthy? In what world do we think we can find a happy medium where we will be okay? There is no happy medium because again these insecurities will always be around, will always haunt us and will always hurt us. And so I think we have to come to terms with this. We need a yes from Jesus and we have not gotten that yet. And so us trying to make it work or us trying to find a happy medium where we can have parts of each other at times has only caused more problems and more frustrations. I have tears streaming down my face, but this just isn’t working and it’s killing us in any type of relationship we have with each other.
Friday, June 20, 2025
Caleb
I totally understand why you have those thoughts. I was not always around her. I find Alyssa and she may come up to us, but it’s not initiated ever by me, ever. I’m sorry your thoughts are running wild today. All I can do is just ask that you trust me. I hate her. I hate what she’s done and I hate that she ruins everything when in public. She always tries to make it seem like things are good and normal.
Saturday, June 28, 2025
Caleb
Don’t worry about asking how I am. I have absolutely no one and zero meaning to my life anymore. So, all of this is good practice for my current future. Seriously, don’t ask me. I’ll just suffer alone. First game is at 12:30. Sorry you can’t be here. I wish you could. Hope your trip is safe today and you enjoy the beach. You made a comment about distancing a little today and unfortunately that’s what we have to do moving forward. Literally the worst thing in the world, but we have to. I hate Douche. And I will always love you. I hope the Lord heals your heart and gives you the life you deserve. Have a great day.
Wednesday, July 2, 2025
Caleb
Alleigha, I hate her. What are you even talking about?
Alleigha
A soulmate is irreplaceable. Don’t you agree and know and feel that?
Caleb
I don’t deal in whatifs. I deal with reality. And the reality is you’re only 23 years old with everything ahead of you. And so regardless of how recent us was, the reality is unless we figure out a way to make douche disappear, you need to move on. And you have every opportunity to do that.
Thursday, July 3, 2025
Caleb
I hate douche. I sure as heck ain’t hanging with her. I hate my life and I hate her.
Alleigha
This is why, baby, we need to find a way. I want to show you what a real marriage can be.
Caleb
Wow, with you.
Friday, July 4, 2025
Alleigha
Douche needs to go.
Caleb
I would literally have a smile on my face the whole time. Please take her out.
Alleigha
Do you ever think you’d do you think you’d ever miss the Smiths? Sorry for even asking. Hard for you to answer or something?
Caleb
What? No. Not even for a second.
Alleigha
Praise God.
Saturday, July 5, 2025
Caleb
I understand what you’re saying. I will have to watch you with another man and you will end up loving them. I don’t love her. I hate her. What life? There is no life. It’s misery and fake.
Sunday, July 6, 2025
Caleb
I hate her Alleigha. Why would I make a trip to her? You’re very welcome. Just always know I hate her and never want to be near her.
Monday, July 7, 2025
Caleb
You know I will do everything I can, but also I’m asking that you don’t put stipulations on what would happen or what it would mean if I accept or not. I’m not being mean or short or insensitive, but you have to at least acknowledge that this is a little more involved than other things I skip or make excuses to miss. What I mean is now that her parents are involved and have their hands in it, I have a lot of things to work out. I hate her and want zero time with her like ever. But again, this isn’t just some concert or little event I’m trying to get out of. Anyways, like I said, yes, I will do everything I can to make it happen.
Tuesday, July 8, 2025
Caleb
I don’t know how many times I have to say that I hate her guts.
Thursday, July 10, 2025
Alleigha
Baby, I miss you so much already. How do we do this?
Caleb
I honestly and truly don’t know.
Alleigha
Do you know how badly I want to say fuck it to any rules and any barriers and just love you with my entire heart for the rest of my life? I want to kill her Caleb.
Caleb
That makes two of us.
Friday, July 11, 2025
Caleb
Yes, I’m a Demo. Grabbed Carson and left. I really want to emphasize that this release is not a release or freedom for me. Literally, nothing changes on my end besides losing the only thing that has given me life the last 16 months. I don’t want to talk to her. I don’t want to spend time with her. I don’t want to be around her. And it’s easy for your mind to wander. But I’m telling you, this release actually makes me hate her worse, if that’s even possible.
Saturday, July 19, 2025
Caleb
I literally said today I hate her with everything in me and always will. So that’s wrong.
Wednesday, July 30, 2025
Caleb
I honestly don’t even know where to start. You have taken what I said and twisted it. You’ve convinced yourself that what I said means something completely different, but I’m not going to go back and forth. Can only try to explain again. I’m not making any decisions to comfort her now. I’m not making any decision to guard her from anything. I have not or will not be reconciling anything. As I said, I’m not responsible for what she did. She made that decision and now she pays with the consequences of someone who wants nothing to do with her. If it wasn’t for Ava and Alyssa, I’d be gone. And so again, I’m not doing anything with her in mind. I told you I’m only responsible for me. And I have tried for 16 months to control and manufacture something that would work for us. And it has caused destruction. I’ve eliminated the Lord from every possible area of my life, as I knew if I let Him lead, it would mean letting go of you. And so I wrestled and we surrendered and went back, released and went. …and everything now has gone to hell. And for that, Alleigha, I am sorry. I could not be more sorry of how poorly I led us and how I allowed us to get to where we are right now. But I’m not making decisions to try and hurt you. I’m just trying to release fully and let the Lord now take control. You seem to think that I have somehow gained something from all this. You somehow think that you’re the only one suffering. I know, Alleigha, you’re suffering. I know Alleigha, that this is the worst possible thing that we could have imagined. I know, but I have gained nothing. I still hate her. I still have no one. I still will live a fake life as if nothing is wrong. So think what you want, but I’m not happy. I have not gained anything. Yes, I was in Bear Lake. I went on morning walks every single morning by myself, praying and screaming out to the Lord, praying I’d be mauled by a bear. This is the business trip I have done the last 3 years. And so yes, this last week was awful as it was the last place I wanted to be. I’m sorry, Alleigha. I can’t say that enough. Whether you believe me or not, I’m only trying to trust the Lord and stop controlling things. I can’t speak for what the Lord prompts you to do or what he speaks. But this is what I know he has spoken to me. To stop controlling things and to release and trust him. He has said that for a while and I have ignored it more than I can count. I’m sorry. I’m sorry for it all. You have said some incredibly hurtful and hard things to me. I will take them as I know you’re hurting. But I’m not trying to be careless as you say. I’m just trying to trust Jesus.
Saturday, August 2, 2025
Caleb
I hate her and yes, I’m forced to live in this hell where she is around. You will find another love and I will have to watch and see that. I’m glad you will have someone cuz trust me, what I live and am trapped in is hell on earth.
Monday, August 4, 2025
Alleigha
Have a great day. I’m sure you’re doing loads of work these next two days before leaving on your beloved 15-year anniversary trip. The history you guys have is unmatched by the way. 15 years and 17 months doesn’t even compare. She always wins. Enjoy your day. Enjoy uninterrupted hours with her on the plane tomorrow, in the hotel. Enjoy traveling and enjoy your favorite trip ever. A hell sent death of Alleigha cruise.
And then Cabo. I truly have never been more sick to my stomach and I’ve never wanted to die more. I don’t know how I’m going to make it. Every day will get worse. Every moment I imagine and picture what y’all could be doing. Every second will stab me in the chest violently. I don’t know if I’ll still be alive by the end of this. She has to be happier than ever. I really have to go. I need to run from this messed up situation of a life I live.
Caleb
I will not enjoy myself at all this week. Regardless of what you think, my heart and mind will be on you as I know you will be hurting. I will not be having sex with her like you said or even coming close to touching her. I hate her and always will. I choose a life of solitude 100 out of 100 times over anything with her. As much as it’s crippling to think of being alone for the rest of eternity, I choose that.
Tuesday, August 12, 2025
Alleigha
I have never been more hurt by any single thing in my entire life, and nothing will ever top what I’ve been through. You have truly no idea what this has put me through. I truly have never felt such excruciatingly awful suffering in my life.
Tuesday, August 19, 2025
Caleb
Hey, I just tried to send you a message, but it’s not showing up. Anyways, I was saying I’m sorry to bother you. I heard you were meeting with Douche tomorrow. I’m so sorry for that. I doubt she would ask to see our messages, but I just found out that when you delete message threads, you can actually still recover them and read them. I’ll send us a screen recording of this, but once you delete a message thread, hit the edit button in the top left corner and hit show recently deleted. And from there, you can either delete or recover them. Obviously, we’ll need to delete them.
Again, I’m so sorry, Alleigha. I told her when this all went down that I was the one who texted you first, and so she knows you didn’t initiate any of this. Also told her I was asking you about the recording and specifically how the flow of the recording was going to go. (practice a bit and then three full takes the pros and cons of using clicking guide. The last and lastly who is going to end up postmixing this whole thing that’s it)
Alleigha
Caleb, there’s literally no way in hell I can physically, mentally, emotionally, or in any way at all see her face right now. I cancelled and hope she never reschedules. If her and I do meet, you don’t need to tell me what to say or worry. I got it covered. But I’m choosing peace for myself right now. I cannot look her in the eyes right now. I cannot hear her talk about you or say your name out of her mouth. There’s no way I’m allowing that for myself. You have no idea the turmoil and pain that has consumed me. And now this. You caused this meeting on top of everything I’m already facing and the weight of my life and a shattered heart. It’s not happening this week. I can’t bear it. I already knew about the messages. Very known thing with iMessage in any messaging platform. Have had them deleted for a long time and would not show her my messages. My messages or anything in my phone or life is none of her business. I wouldn’t show her if she asked. Not okay and never happening.
Friday, August 22, 2025
Alleigha
I don’t know how to respond to you anymore. It breaks my heart as we used to be closer than any two people in the world. My heart is bitter. Everything is clouded. I have 10,000% not moved on. You really have no idea what this has done to my life. If you think that’s the case, there are ties I have to you that will never go away. I still cry daily. I ache every minute. I’m a zombie. I’ll never be the same. And I’m scared. I’m scared to open myself up to you again at all. I’m terrified to experience this pain all over again. And no matter what, she’s always a part of you. She’s always in your life. And she haunts me.
There’s nothing more I want to do than to talk to you every day again. To be in your arms, to forget it all and just be best friends. But this time, it’s much harder to forget what’s happened. You think you’re hurting, which I’m not belittling, but Caleb, I don’t know if you could ever imagine what this has all done to me. It’s the way things were done, and especially the timing. It’s the coldness. I didn’t deserve any of it. None of it. I know you’ve apologized countless times, and it’s good to hear you regret things, but it doesn’t take away the damage that has been done. This one has no recovery in sight as long as she lives in your home and is called your wife. I don’t know how to be anything that we were again. I know that’s not what you you’re asking. But how do I even have a conversation with you and not think about what’s happening or happened or her or spiral back to where I was during the cruise? It was terrifying. I have to be strong for myself. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done. But I have been crushed, wrecked, ruined, murdered, betrayed, all of the above. After everything we’ve been through and just fully surrendering, it will take a lifetime to heal from what’s been done. And I just don’t know what to do or say with any of this. I’ve wanted to respond to you, but I have no idea how and how much I should let you in. If you can find a way to remove her from your life, if you can really show me how sorry you are, if you can give me more and actually believable proof that you hate her, I don’t know. It’s all for you to figure out if you want me to really be back in your life. But this is all too heavy for me right now. And I’m just looking at my life and not wanting to repeat this cycle of heartache forever. …most joy and love I’ve ever felt to the worst loneliness and heartache I’ve ever experienced in my life. It’s second to no suffering I’ve ever felt. You don’t even know the half of it. But I’ve relied on him. He is the only reason why I’m still alive right now. You were my everything, too. And you and the situation hurt me in ways I never thought possible. I’ll never recover. I don’t know what else to say. I hurt every day of my life and always will now. Joy doesn’t exist anymore. It’s all fake. My life is miserable. I don’t know what else to say anymore and don’t know what to do with my life. All I wanted was a life with you. You still can’t give that to me and I’ve been hurt beyond words. I don’t know what to do with any of it. I barely have any words left. You’ve heard them all from me over the past months. The way this ended will be something I’ll never understand. It’s what hurts the most.
Caleb
I cannot stop crying. Those are not just words. I’m truly lost and nothing without you. I hear and understand everything you’re saying. and you have every right to feel the way you do. The timing of this effing cruise was the worst ever. And I cannot say I’m sorry enough. I know that is still not enough. I’ve said it before, but I have to say it again. I didn’t go to hurt you. I didn’t go for her. I only went cuz I felt the Lord asked me to stop being disobedient and trying to control things. But Alleigha, I’m sorry I went. I thought the Lord would honor that what I did was being obedient. But it has truly made things awful. I’m not blaming the Lord or anything, but it has ruined everyone. I’d give anything in the world to have you again and to be friends and like you said hold each other, but I know this trip and the presence of Douche has ruined it all. It’s more than I can actually bear. I want next. All I want is you. I’m sorry I’ve hurt you. I was up till 4:00 a.m. last night crying and literally thinking of ways to kill her and not go to jail. Even though you have said if she was gone, you wouldn’t want me. I’m sorry, Alleigha, for this all. Gosh, I’m sorry. I hate every second of this life I have to live. All I do is daydream about you. All I do is dream about hugging you. I’m sorry I’ve hurt you. I am truly sorry.
It’s only because of Alyssa and Ava. I have been literally trying to find a way to get rid of her, to be rid of her. I’m sorry you feel she is who I choose. I despise her with everything in me. Have you seen one picture of the cruise? I have her blocked and so not sure what she posts, but I know there is no pics of the cruise. That’s because there were none. I don’t mean to bring the trip up as I know it’s awful, but I didn’t choose her. You have my heart. She does not. I’m sorry for the memories. Since being back, I have driven past your apartment half a dozen times and I bawl. I’ve sat across the street while you were at work and I just wept. I wept out loud. I’m sorry you feel like I’ve done nothing to fight. I haven’t done anything but text as again, I thought you never wanted to hear or see me again. And I wasn’t trying to make things worse. Alleigha, you have absolutely every reason to be massively angry at me. I know. I’m not saying you should feel otherwise. You’ve been through hell and I can’t say I’m sorry enough. I’d give anything in the world to go back and to do it all different. I tried to be obedient and just go and be alone, which I was. But I know it murdered you. It would have murdered me. I swear on my girls’ lives. I’ll live with regret for the rest of eternity.
Alleigha
I said it would change everything, Caleb. I’m not asking that you take her life obviously because that’s not what you should do and I know you actually wouldn’t. But to make the divorce happen, it would change everything.
Caleb
If you want to pursue Will or Nathan or anyone for that matter, you need to do it. I need to go through and feel what you have. I’m sorry for all I’ve put you through. I’m so effing sorry, Alleigha. I’m nothing. I’m not worth a second of your time. Don’t give me another thought. I’ll work on getting rid of her. Until then, I love you. I will support you from the sideline. You owe me nothing. I am nothing.
Alleigha
If you really do hate her and she knows that and you want me so much more than her, then say goodbye to her forever, would you rather have a life with her or me? That’s the question you’ll have to wrestle with forever. You have one life on Earth as a human being. You make your own choices, but time is ticking and I can’t wait forever.
Sunday, August 24, 2025
Caleb
Screw her. I hate her. I want to if you let me. And I don’t care what she wants. I hate her.
You’re right. I don’t want to hurt my girls ever, but I can’t explain to you the absolute shift in my heart for you. I’m sorry if me saying this stuff makes things harder, and I’m not trying to mess with your head and heart, but I legit want you more than I ever have. I need to find a way. I have to find a way. And I am fasting this week asking for wisdom.
Monday, August 25, 2025
Caleb
All valid questions. No one knows I’m fasting. I swear on Ava and Alyssa’s life, and I’m not going to fast all food. I don’t want it obvious to her or anyone. This is for me and believing the Lord for a breakthrough and deliverance. No free chapel people, no Smiths, no Douche, just me and Jesus. It’s my fight, Alleigha. I need the Lord to deliver me and I need you. I’m sorry.
Alleigha
Caleb, I’m scared that this fast is going to get too hard or that reality is going to hit you and then you’re going to give up on fighting for us. I just feel like that’s happened too often where it gets too hard or out of our reach and you give up or distance and hurt me.
Caleb
I 100% would not go into a 40-day fast if I didn’t think you were worth it, as well as all the things that might come with it. I cannot communicate this enough. You are worth it. You are worth the fight.
Thursday, August 28, 2025
Alleigha
The thought of us being free and just being able to talk all night and not have her interrupt moments like that. I mean, I literally forgot she existed for a minute and you were just sitting on the phone with me for so long and then all of a sudden complete change and you have to go and cater to her again. I hate her more than I ever have. I hate all of it.
Caleb
I hate her too with all my heart. I want this freedom more than my next breath.
Tuesday, September 2, 2025
Alleigha
Okay, so with WhatsApp looks like we’re good. If she tried to get the data from WhatsApp, it’s not possible. Maybe change your password to be super hard to access the account as well, just in case. I’m going to check about Apple and Instagram and ways we can erase it all. I love you. Sorry to keep you on the phone for so long. We spent most of our early time messaging on WhatsApp and said a lot. I’d make your password super hard just in case. My only thought is if she gets a lawyer and the lawyer is able to get the meta data. I hate GroupMe reminds me of bad times rather than good times. Instagram reminds me of good. Please re-turn on your read receipts.
The lawyer thing is the only thing that scares me. Okay, tell me when you’re ready. I have some actions for you to take regarding WhatsApp stuff. Trying to make sure we’re all good Love. Sorry for all the messages.
Caleb
Hi, thank you for looking all this stuff up. I haven’t been able to read it all yet. You’re saying we should switch back to WhatsApp and not GroupMe or Instagram? Have you looked up how we can completely clear any data on Instagram and GroupMe? I’m still working and so I’ll get to whatever you need me to do. Just let me know.
Alleigha
No, I’m starting with WhatsApp and then we’ll get to the other three apps we’ve used. We will stay on GroupMe for sure. When you’re ready, I’ll tell you what to do for WhatsApp because that’s what I’m starting with. I’m going to go ahead and do everything on my end now, and then you’ll have to do all the same things when you’re free. Are you still going to be lovey and sweet on here? GroupMe just reminds me of our worst times. The cruise, surrenders, fights. Instagram was the opposite. I just hate the memories this app holds. But I understand we need to use this over all the other ones as long as you turn on your read receipts and be the same Caleb you’ve been these past couple weeks.
Caleb
I will be beyond sweet and lovey. I promise. And yeah, list out what I should do on WhatsApp. I already sent pics. That will be good. But here, here’s what you need to do in order to permanently erase all data that could possibly be found in the future if her lawyer or someone called, which would be rare, but let’s just erase everything to be safe.
Alleigha
She can’t specifically ask for the data, but she could have a lawyer ask if she’d even be that smart. But anyways, just in case, I’ll need you to change your password on WhatsApp to be really hard to guess. So she has no way of accessing your info.
Caleb
Doing it now. I currently have WhatsApp logged via my phone number and not my email or password.
Alleigha
Hm, okay, might want to see if it’s possible to change that or just leave it be. Not even a specific user can access past data. So we might be good if you can’t change it as long as we erase all data. Do this. When you redownload and when it asks to back up, press skip. This is just data I thought you’d want to know. They can keep metadata, which apparently is who texted, the dates the messages were sent, etc. But they won’t have the actual messages. But it says here, “It will only be stored temporarily and can only be accessed by law enforcement” after we do all these steps.
Caleb
I did this and then I did thins when I redownloaded it.
Alleigha
I would actually do this too. Sorry babe it’s giving me a lot. I’m doing this one now. Almost done with WhatsApp. Okay, that should honestly do it.
Caleb
Okay, so delete permanently.
Alleigha
Yes, do this after you’ve done everything else, too. Do you see where it says what it deletes? Is this too much for you right now? Is it taking you away from your work?
Caleb
Okay, I deleted it.
Alleigha
Sweet. Also, are you saving these pics to your camera roll? If so, delete them and then delete your recently deleted. Wouldn’t be good if Douche saw these screenshots. Did you do all the five steps I just sent you?
Caleb
I did yes and no. I did not save these to my camera roll.
Alleigha
Once you answer those, I have one last question about WhatsApp. Sounds good. Did you do all the other steps I sent you?
Caleb
Okay, go ahead.
Alleigha
Did you do all five?
Caleb
No, sorry. Should I redownload it?
Alleigha
All the pictures I sent, did you do them?
No, it’s fine. Hold on, babe. I sent you these steps for a reason. This is all worth it. I’m trying to make sure we’re protected.
Caleb
I know. I’m mad at myself.
Alleigha
Why? Whey did you do that?
Caleb
Not you, love. You’re amazing.
Alleigha
One, do this. Two, do this.
Caleb
Cuz I missed the other steps and did the last one.
Alleigha
Why didn’t you? Oh boy, hold on.
Caleb
I was doing this in between working until the last ones said, “Delete your account.” I’m an idiot. Sorry, babe.
Alleigha
Hold on. Okay, you’re not an idiot. I’m just trying to do this right. Do this with a screenshot. Then you’ll be good and then I’ll ask the question.
Caleb
There is no iCloud option when I click on my name. I can search, manage storage, but then no backups option. I searched backups and nothing comes up. I did turn chat back to off though.
Alleigha
Let me screen record and show you.
Caleb
Okay.
Alleigha
See how my WhatsApp one is turned off? But now that you deleted WhatsApp permanently, I wonder if yours will show up. Just double check and then you should be good if you don’t see it. Let me know when that’s done Love.
Caleb
Gosh, I’m an idiot. I thought this was all done in the WhatsApp app.
Alleigha
ChatGPT said to make sure it’s done in iCloud storage too. Babe, stop calling yourself an idiot.
Caleb
Okay, hold on.
Alleigha
Babe, you got to read closely to the things I’m sending you. It specifically said, iPhone, iCloud, haha, silly. Just screenshot what you see when you get there, okay? Once we’re done with this, we can move on to Insta and then we’ll tackle GroupMe and then iCloud to make sure all our bases are covered.
Caleb
I’m sorry, Alleigha. I’m terribly sorry. You do not have to come tonight.
Alleigha
What field is it even at?
Caleb
Field 9.
Alleigha
Did Ash keep those screenshots of our messages? At what park?
Caleb
No, she did not.
Alleigha
I need to know if she kept them or are you not sure? How do you know she didn’t?
Caleb
I deleted them off the iPad. What are you talking about then? The pictures of the messages she took a picture of when she found them on the iPad? And what pictures were those? Pictures of the messages we sent on the iPad.
Alleigha
What if she recovered them from recently deleted just in case?
Caleb
The iPad was completely wiped.
Alleigha
Didn’t she screenshot them and send them to herself?
Caleb
No, I don’t think so.
Alleigha
What is she did? I thought y’all had screenshots on both y’all’s devices for a while. I thought you sent me screenshots from your phone and that she had them, too. you got to remember because that would be a big deal.
Caleb
I don’t remember. I don’t think she has them.
Alleigha
Uh
Caleb
I’m sorry, it was a while ago.
Alleigha
That would be a huge deal if she did. She would have proof to bring to the court.
Caleb
I could try and grab her phone when she sleeps to check.
Alleigha
If she has screenshots, she can do the court show the court and that and then she can see our past messages on Insta.
Caleb
“What app is that from?
Alleigha
That is from ChatGPT and it’s about Instagram. If she has screenshots, she can see GroupMe and Insta past messages.
Caleb
So Instagram stuff can’t be permanently deleted either?
Alleigha
She can possibly take legal action or a subpoena may happen if she had screenshots.
Caleb
Ain’t no way she could get a subpoena.
Alleigha
You don’t know if she would or not.
Caleb
I’ll try and grab her phone late tonight.
Alleigha
Okay, scroll back to October.” That’s when she found them, right? And look at her messages from your iPad, too.
Caleb
Honestly, the girls take pictures and look at stuff all the time. No way she would have kept screenshots knowing the girls are in there. But again, I’ll look.
Alleigha
Sounds good. I’m hopeful they’re not in there. Just got to double check because this could be super bad if she has them.
Caleb
I’ll find out.
Alleigha
Be careful.
Caleb
I will for sure.
Alleigha
She might wonder why you’re on your phone if she catch on her phone if she catches you.” What would be your excuse? Just think of one.
Caleb
I’ll put mine somewhere weird or something and say I can’t find mine, so I’m calling it.
Alleigha
Perfect. That is if we want to go the extra safe route and request permanent deletion. But I don’t think it’s easy to get approved for this. We’ll have to wait and see if she has the screenshots or not. Now, I have info for iCloud and you can permanently delete these messages from there, too. Read all of these thoroughly when you get the chance. Is that screenshots? We will do iCloud later tonight. This one seems very doable and she won’t have access at all. Not even lawyers with a subpoena. Let me know if Matt or Kayla are there or any of her family for that matter. And let me know when Douche’s game is over. Don’t want there to be any chance she’d come late to the soccer game or what.
Wednesday, September 3, 2025
Caleb
I hate her and she gets nothing from me just like always. Literally telling you with 100% certainty I’m not with 100% certainty I’m divorcing her and leaving her and yet you still doubt me.
Saturday, September 6, 2025
Caleb
I was so excited to tell you I felt I got the go-ahead and now all this. I feel if I did leave her, you wouldn’t choose me. The carelessness and deliberate pain you wanted me to feel breaks me. Will is my Douche, and you went to him, hugged him, flirted with him, did a music video with him. And on top of it all, after 4 hours of silence, it’s the very first thing I see when your phone comes on.
Sunday, September 7, 2025
Caleb
I’ve been gone for 4 days and it’s 9:40 and I’m alone. I have no complaints cuz I hate her. But we’re not close. We don’t hug. We don’t talk hardly ever unless it’s about the girls or schedules. That’s it.
Monday, September 8, 2025
Caleb
She’s awful and I hate her. I’m sorry, Alleigha. I know. I know. Being here is awful. It’s why I’m fasting 40 days to get out of this. Please remember that. I’m fasting cuz I want you, not her. I’m trying to get out.
Friday, September 12, 2025
Caleb
Here’s the thing, though. I don’t love her. Leaving her is not going to make me magically love her again. Morning, baby. Sorry about the dog waking you up. What movie did you girls end up watching? I just dropped the girls off at school. I got back from the gym around 8:05 and she left very shortly after. The only things she said to me were, “Girls need lunch. I don’t have time to make them.” And before she left, she said, “I have Life Wise all day, so the dogs don’t need to be let out.” I hate her so much, even the sound of her voice pisses me off.
Alleigha
You aren’t even trying with a plan moving forward. Not trying at all. I can’t do this when I don’t trust you. You have zero plan that would help me to stay. Nothing to fight for me with. Nothing to make me trust you more. Nothing. I’m not moving forward with anything unless there’s a plan.
Caleb
I’ll be praying and thinking of a plan moving forward. Let me know if the Lord speaks to you.
Saturday, September 13, 2025
Alleigha
I’m willing to try if you give me a good plan.
Sunday, September 14, 2025
Caleb
And the girls were in my office and she said that so I think there is. She said that so I think it was more for the girls so they don’t think she is just being boring and going to sleep. I hate her. I hate her guts.
Alleigha
How do you see this working until you leave her? We can’t do this until you leave her. How is that unfair? Don’t you see? Don’t you see why?
Caleb
Yep, I see.
Monday, September 15, 2025
Alleigha
Please let me know when you divorce her. I’ll be praying.
Caleb
Alleigha, you’re saying two different things at the same time. Some statements you’re saying, “I’m all ears for a plan.” And then the next thing is, “Let me know when you divorce her, or you can’t do this while she’s still in the picture.” I’m not even sure what you really want. I want to be here and help as well. I will respect if you need space in this time.
And whether you believe me or not, I have been trying to think of some plan that will magically make all of this better. Being honest, I don’t have that yet cuz I don’t know what I can do until she’s gone. That will really help. When she is gone, my goodness, it all changes. I will set up every safeguard to protect and keep your heart at ease.
Alleigha
You aren’t giving me a plan or anything. I’ve said so many times that I need that, but it’s like you keep ignoring it. So, yeah, that’s making me have no hope for right now.
Tuesday, September 16, 2025
Caleb
Okay, back. Let me just start by saying I hate her. Ava and I had the best time. Walk in and she immediately says, “Where have you been? It’s dark and you’re on a scooter.” Ava was the one who spoke first and said, “Mommy, it’s fine. We were safe.” And then I super sarcastically said, “The scooter has lights. We’re fine.” Relax and walk away from her. She’s freaking retarded and I hate her. I’m glad she doesn’t, as I hate her, but she’s just um …
Wednesday, September 17, 2025
Caleb
I’m not gay like Matt C. Matt right away said, “How was the trip?” So, he just told us about it. His hotel, the food, the weather. He talked non-stop. He literally is a woman when it comes to talking. I legit didn’t even ask a question, and neither did Matt after the first one, as he kept going. He then right after asked about the business and anything new. So, we updated him on jobs and scheduling coming up. Then he said that Jill texted Douche, Kayla, and Todd’s mom, Sandy, and asked if everyone would go to Dose Luna’s tonight so they could share about their trip. I did not ask Matt or I did not ask Matt or I, but like I said, Jill went to them. I immediately said I have to get Alyssa to gymnastics and he said, “Yeah, that we would meet at 5:15 and I could leave whenever.” Baby, I’m sorry. I’m going to sit between my daughters and ignore the hell out of Douche. I hate her. I won’t ask one question as this stupid family doesn’t shut up. This is exactly one of those stupid family things that we just talked about that I have no control over. I’m sorry. I hate it. I don’t want to go. I hate them and I hate Douche. Please don’t be mad. Only one more month.
Thursday, September 18, 2025
Caleb
Still at the barn and no text or call yet as I stay till after 5:30. At least I’ll let you know of anything. Hate her.
Sunday, September 21, 2025
Caleb
I hate her. I hate everything about her.
Alleigha
Let’s say you still hear that the Lord wants you to leave her after you’ve told me so many times that He has told you that and given you peace and that you are going to leave her, but you’re fasting about how. I’m afraid that October will come and you’ll chicken out and not divorce her. It’s pretty easy to think and say you are now, but when the time actually comes and really really hits that it’s a real thing, you won’t.
Caleb
I’m so sorry, love. I’m so so sorry. I hate her. I hate all that she does to you us in this situation. And like I said it’s only me and Ava. We were playing basketball and I asked Ava if she wanted to leave with me to go watch the Vikings and she said yes. Douche was out in the hallway and so I told her I was taking Ava home with me. She said why are you leaving? I said, going to watch the Vikings and walked away. I hate her. I hate that she ruins things between us.
Monday, September 22, 2025
Caleb
I’m crying because I hate the way things are. I hate the way we talk to each other. I hate that there’s no understanding and grace on both sides. I hate Douche. I hate it all. I hate you resent me. I hate when we have good days. It can so quickly be turned around. I hate it.
I’m going to say this and it’s going to piss you off, but you know what? At Run with Christ, you hug guys. You talk to guys. You spend all day with them. When I’m not here, I don’t talk to her. I don’t hug her. I don’t spend time around her. Yes, I know I share living space at the moment, but I’m beyond distant with her. I ignore her at all costs. I don’t like her posts. I don’t follow all kinds of other girls. I’m not minimizing your feelings. What you go through sucks. It’s awful. But whether you believe it or not, I hate this stupid Bitch. I hate her guts. And I literally run away from her at all costs. Every Young Adult event, you hug, you laugh, you talk to guys. I don’t want to talk to her.
Tuesday, September 23, 2025
Caleb
I hate her too. And no Love, I have shorts and a sweatshirt. I’m in my office all the time. Always will. We were in a hurry cuz Ava couldn’t find her bag. So it was me standing at the door telling the girls we had to leave. Girls were running around and I yelled, “I’ll be in the truck”, and I walked out. That’s the 100% truth. I don’t hug her. I don’t say have a good day. I don’t even say bye. I walk away cuz I hate her.
Sunday, September 28, 2025
Alleigha
Wouldn’t you be worried if I didn’t go insane about you living with another woman and doing life with another woman? I need her gone Caleb. You know how awful it’s been for me. If you want me when I’m healed, just tell me. I already warned you way ahead of time that it’s going to take a long time for me to heal after this cruise. I don’t mean to keep bringing it up, but it has changed my entire life.
Monday, September 29, 2025
Alleigha
Just tell me if your timeline is changing based on recent events because honestly that would make no sense with everything you tell me. You tell me you’re leaving her either way. That you want to show me a life without her. And you know things would be so different as soon as you left her. You know as long as she stays, it’ll always be hard between us. Have fun with Ash-Shit.
Caleb
That’s a good one.
Alleigha
Wow, your call boo.
Caleb
All right Dude.
Alleigha
Doesn’t bother me, lol. Just makes me laugh.
Caleb
Cool. Tragic ending, but this just ain’t working. You want her gone and have every right to want that too, which I’m willing to do. Willing to leave it all for you. I want RW shit gone. Sorry that’s my non-negotiable. You won’t do it. So pretty clear it won’t work.
Just let me know if your retarded singles club is the most important thing in your life, or me, will be the determining factor. See ya. As you need her gone, I need this gone.
Alleigha
We need a phone call tomorrow to talk through all of this. Let me know when you can today. When can you call today?
Caleb
I want my girls full time and a life with you, but I can’t have both. So, I’ve weighed the options and I choose you. You weigh the options and want the opportunities he can bring.
Tuesday, September 30, 2025
Caleb
My mind and thoughts are honestly all over the place this morning. Awful night of sleep and the gym was practically worthless as I just sat there thinking of you, us, and this heartache and awful situation. I’m sorry for the things I said last night that were hurtful. Like you, this situation has created something in me that I don’t like and something I don’t even recognize. But I’m sorry. When I say I don’t know what to do, I honestly mean that. That’s why I couldn’t sleep and the gym was awful. One part of me wants to share location and do anything you want. And then I also know I’ll get nothing for my heart. You’ll do the collective. You’ll hug guys. You’ll accidentally like posts. You’ll travel with Will, Bryce, Isaiah, Garrison, and more. And the other part of me agrees we need to take a step back. But that absolutely terrifies me. I’m just being honest and sharing my heart. If you can hug and like guys posts, then it will all fall under the umbrella of we’re not together and we took a step back. So you’ll do all those things and feel no guilt or feel no need to protect me. All while I will still distance myself from the whore. Cuz regardless of us, I will always hate her and want nothing to do with her. You made a comment in one of your first paragraphs that said you feel you’re willing to sacrifice more. I honestly can’t even believe you typed that out. I think I’m willing to sacrifice. I think what I’m willing to sacrifice is my daughter’s, a quarter million dollar salary job, a place to live, possibly a church that I serve at, public shame and humiliation, and way more. Alleigha, that’s what I’m willing to sacrifice. I’ve asked you to unfollow Will. Big sacrifice there.
I want you. I want us. It’s just so hard. you want me apart from her and I totally understand that and want to give you that and I want you apart from Will and Run with Christ. Not assuming just again sharing my heart. I don’t feel like you’re willing to do that. You even said yesterday you want the opportunities that Will can give you. But I’m praying a ton today. I’m seeking Jesus. I’ll never understand how and why we feel for each other the way we did. But we did. And it was and is beautiful. It’s a love like no other. It’s a love like no one has seen. and I’m not willing to let go of that so casually or to be okay with the way things are now. So, I’m praying. Hope your meetings go well today. Are you still going to Young Adults? Jill just texted Matt and I about it.
Thursday, October 2, 2025
Alleigha
I need to hear what you think the timeline will be. I need to know more details. It’s simple, Caleb. The 40-day fast is over. You leave her. I’m yours again forever. I already heard my yes, too.
Friday, October 3, 2025
Alleigha
Last night meant everything to me. That’s why I was so confused about last night and you still not sharing location and everything still being different after you did all that with my family. They love you.” My mom even said, “Wow, he’s literally incredible with kids.” As she watched you with Roxy, I was amazed and just saw you fitting in so well with all of us. Caleb, I mean it when I say I need you for life. I need you. I hope this makes you even more urgent to leave her. Does it? I need you outside of her. I’m not going anywhere, Caleb. Nothing is good outside of you, but please stop making me out to be a bad guy here. There’s no bad intentions. I just see how we aren’t working. How I can’t trust. How I feel like my worst self and it all roots in her. I need her gone and I need urgency. I’m waiting for you. You’re too amazing to give up on. Nothing else compares. I mean all of that. Don’t worry. I’m staying. He mainly spoke to me because I have been struggling so bad with trust. Just figured if I could trust you more and if we had a better plan and also you had more of a timeline when you’re leaving her, this would be easier for me and that maybe we could make it work. Just hard. Things are so horrible on my end while she’s around.
Caleb
I’m not mad at you. Just like you hate Douche, I hate Will. You can’t stand me being anywhere near her or even the thought of anything with her as I can’t stand you near him or even following the retarded dude.
Saturday, October 4, 2025
Caleb
I’m here for you, baby. I hate her. I despise her. I will be leaving her. There’s no doubt in my heart that you’re it. And because I’ve been to these games before, it’s not coaching. I don’t watch her or admire her at all. Are you kidding? I hate her. And PS, I’m not insecure when you listen to Will speak. I’ve heard enough of his snippets. He sucks at speaking and is as monotone and boring to listen to as ever. Not sure why you sent him that long message saying you admired him.
Monday, October 6, 2025
Alleigha
Caleb, I want you to leave her right now.
Caleb
Please.
Alleigha
Like…
Caleb
Please do this for me.
Alleigha
Then leave her.
Caleb
You unfollowing Will has no repercussions besides maybe a blow to his fucking ego. Me leaving Douche ruins my daughter’s lives, and yet I will still do it.
Thursday, October 9, 2025
Caleb
I hate her. I despise her. I want nothing to do with her. First off, I really hope your move goes well today. I wish I could be there to help. I really do. Alleigha, I know you know this, but there are things we do that we want to for love, and there are things we do that we don’t want to for love. I am more than willing to do just about anything for love with you. I’m willing to flip my world upside down. To lose a job and a big salary, to lose a house, to lose my daughter’s full time, and to go through this hell that will come with leaving her. I want to leave her, but it will be hell for months afterwards. But I’ll do it. You have asked me to give location. I did it. You have asked for interactions. I do it. You have asked for distance. I gladly do it. I do and will do it for you cuz I love you. I’m sorry. It may not make sense to you, but I need you to do this one thing for me to show that you’re willing to do anything for love. I’ve heard your reasons, but if you’re really mad, I won’t yell and I won’t argue, but I need you to do it. If it will show me that you’re willing to do something for love, I know you do a lot. I’m not saying you don’t. And again, this may this may make no sense to you, but there are things you have said that you need to see me do before you can marry me. And I have done them. And I’m willing to do the biggest one of all that will shatter my girl’s lives. And like I said, set me on a course of hell with her family and possibly friendships and church relations. But I have and will do those things. I need you to do this. If it’s still a not now, then I will accept, but will respectfully need to take a step back. I need to see you’re willing to do something that means a lot to me and will ease my heart for me to move forward. I love you. I’m not trying to manipulate you. I’m not trying to hurt you. But like you, I’m asking for something for my heart.
Alleigha
It’s because you’re scared to follow through with divorce. You wouldn’t end things if that weren’t the case over this. Unbelievable. You have been nice to her, done something with her, and you’re changing your mind. You’re using this to escape the whole divorce thing.
Friday, October 10, 2025
Alleigha
I’m not scared to hurt his feelings. It’s not about that. I said I’d do it if you leave her. As in, if you leave her tomorrow, I’ll do it tomorrow. Timeline is all up to you, but I can’t wait ages.
Caleb
I need it now.
Alleigha
You’re telling me it’s not going to be soon.
Caleb
Your call.
Alleigha
I can’t wait ages. Not doing it now. Congrats.
Caleb
Then unfollow him and watch and see.
Alleigha
I’m not going to keep texting this. You left my apartment and did what you do best. Hung up the call and I hate texting, so I’m not texting about this.
Caleb
And if you told somebody our entire situation and told them that I was going to divorce her, quit my job, leave my house, lose my daughter’s full-time for you, and that all I was asking for was for you to unfollow someone, they would probably laugh and ask you why you haven’t done it yet.
Alleigha
Leave her.
Sunday, October 12, 2025
Alleigha
Divorce the woman that means nothing.
Thursday, October 16, 2025
Caleb
I was going to leave her sometime before Thanksgiving. Doesn’t matter anymore. You give up. And you said we don’t work. You would rather have your connection to Will. Thank you seriously for breaking my heart and shattering my dreams.
Friday, October 17, 2025
Alleigha
Why were you shaking so bad when you came in? Why won’t you leave her next week?
Caleb
Cuz she called and I hate when she does and I didn’t want to make you mad, but I showed you it ASAP.
Alleigha
Caleb, let’s just face it. You don’t want to give up your girls full time. You’re going to punish me for it forever. And you choose her in a life with her. Please don’t lead me on any longer. You know why I had so many questions tonight. You know why I’m extra in my head and have all these questions and doubts. I have every freaking right to. I’m sorry you don’t understand. My mind is going through torture and you just went off on me. Rid yourself of me, Caleb. I’m going to just let you be tonight and I mean that. I’m sorry to be such an inconvenience every time we talk.
Sunday, October 19, 2025
Caleb
I’m about to lose my daughters in 4 days. And you make this about you?
Monday, October 20, 2025
Alleigha
Caleb, why did you look me in the eye while at my apartment two days ago and tell me you’re leaving her and say, “Watch me.” Why give me so much hope and joy only to shatter it?
Tuesday, October 21, 2025
Caleb
Alleigha, you were so sensitive and understanding yesterday and now you’re so angry. I’m sorry. I’m not done trying to find a way. I know you’re not waiting, but I haven’t given up.
Alleigha
The only way is having your girls half the time. I can’t be stuck in it anymore. You promised you’d leave her. If you want your girl’s full freaking time, then you can’t have me ever again. And you have chosen that. So, I have to release you and let you go.
Thursday, October 23, 2025
Alleigha
We can’t be anything unless you leave her.
Caleb
I understand.
Tuesday, October 28, 2025
Alleigha
I mean what I say, until she’s gone, I’m gone. You need to leave her in order for things to be okay again. I’m done with the in between stuff and getting so hurt every time I’m taking care of me. Talk to me again when you decide to leave her and really choose me. I’m done. Talk.
Caleb
I hate texting.
Alleigha
Until then, I got to move on.
Caleb
Wow
Alleigha
Hurry before it’s too late. Wow is right. I’m done with my heart being played with. Either you leave her and choose me or stay with her and choose that life.
Wednesday, October 29, 2025
Alleigha
You say you choose me and are 100% leaving her, then you suddenly don’t know. Then you choose me. Then you don’t know if it’s a no or not and expect me to just be okay. I have a timeline in my head and I’m going to let you decide when to do it and if I’m even worth it. Better be diligent.
Caleb
Understood.
Thursday, October 30, 2025
Caleb
I was going to do it in 2 weeks, but congratulations. You have chosen a life apart from me. I am in the bathroom bawling my eyes out because of the things you have just said. I never threw us away. I know things weren’t on the timeline that you wished, but I never gave up and I told you that I’d choose you. But now it’s over because you, Alleigha, have chosen that.
Monday, November 3, 2025
Caleb
I deleted all her messages the day we blew up when you said I would never get you back and we were completely done and erased anything from her as I hate and despise her.
Monday, November 10, 2025
Alleigha
I just can’t imagine a world where you actually leave your girls half the time.
Wednesday, November 12, 2025
Caleb
I would fullheartedly agree with her. Sorry, agree. I hate her.
Thursday, November 13, 2025
Alleigha
I think very highly of you, Caleb, and no feeling I have towards you ever become stronger than my love for you. I’m sorry for my part.
I need you, Caleb, and I need her gone in order to fully be okay forever. I can never describe the magnitude of pain she causes me. Nothing.
Caleb
I love you too. I’m sorry for my part as well, and I know you need her gone. I need her gone as well.
Alleigha
Did it mean a lot to you at all that I said all that?
Sunday, November 23, 2025
Caleb
I’m so sorry, baby. I hate her. Almost done.
Alleigha
I just need to be reassured every day that you’re actually going to leave her. Can you please do that for me?
Caleb
That makes two of us. I guarantee I hate her more. I am and have been extending grace and I will continue to. I’m leaving her, Alleigha. Don’t worry.
Wednesday, November 26, 2025
Alleigha
Leave her and then you can have me. I’m not going to continue doing this.
Saturday, November 29, 2025
Alleigha
Are you still leaving her or not? I need to know if you’re still leaving her when you promised you would. I need you to know that if you don’t, I’m gone forever this time. Are you leaving her? I need to know as I start fasting and praying. It’s a simple yes or no. And then I’ll leave you alone for a very long time. I’m bawling harder than ever because you keep doing this to me. You’re avoiding it. It hurts me so much worse. You do this every time with the cruise, with leaving her. And you said it was real this time. I should have fucking known you even picked the date.
I’m going insane right now. Caleb, I need to fucking know this before I start praying and fasting. You know what? Never mind. I have all I need to know. Your uncertainty and not being able to answer it tells me everything I need to know. You are going to hurt me again, and this was your last chance. I’ve given too many chances. This was supposed to be our future. You killed me, you still can’t answer if you’re leaving her. Caleb, you don’t even see how you hurt me and you don’t care.
Monday, December 8, 2025
Alleigha
Caleb, I can’t keep waiting on you to leave her and I can’t go through Christmas shit again. I can’t do it again. and can’t even bear it. So, you need to make up your mind on leaving her or I need to change my life around forever. We would have had our forever next week.
Caleb
Yep, then you sought out Will and other guys.
Alleigha
We still could. So, it’s time for you to make up your mind. Either you leave her before Christmas or I have to move on. Let me know.
Tuesday, December 9, 2025
Caleb
I am working through a lot in my mind right now. I know that I said I would leave her before Christmas. As I said that out of anger again, I’m just trying to work through a ton in my mind. Please forgive me. I’m not trying to string you along and I’m not trying to hurt you. I know it’s important that we’re honest. I don’t want to put you through any more hurt. I desperately love and desire you more than you’ll ever know. I totally understand and respect you saying that you’re gone until she’s gone. We had a wonderful day today and have been calling each other pet names, but I understand if you need to guard yourself.
Alleigha
I’m extending it again when I shouldn’t, but if you leave her before Christmas Eve Day, you can still have me. The things I will not put myself through are Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, and her going to Minnesota with you. If you don’t leave her before then, Caleb, I have to move on. You’re all I want and all that matters. I’d never get bored of you. I have just as many, if not more, fears with all this. Yeah, I still want you over anything else. I’ve seen what my life is without you. I don’t want to live in misery. So, the ball is in your court. If you don’t leave her in 14 days, we cannot be this way ever again.
Caleb
I know, love. I’m scared as well. Yes, I believe you. It’s still very hard, but I believe you.
Wednesday, December 10, 2025
Alleigha
The way we the way we can fully go back to normal is if I fully know that you’re going to leave her in the next 13 days now.
Caleb
I’m nervous to even text this, as I don’t want it to taken the wrong way or anything. I know I keep saying it. I have a lot of things going through my mind as well. One of them is this. I hate to even bring up the witch, but the day I took the job at Free Chapel, she resented me and she hated me. She hated when I did extra worship things. When she cheated and I caught her, she made a comment when she was trying to apologize that she was just so mad, that was the reason she did all that. Anyways, eff her and I hate her. But as I told you, I’ve learned I have a lot of deep insecurities now. What I’ve seen from us when we fight or get mad, then you block me and then you go on to like guys stuff and you’ve made comments like, “well we weren’t together or we weren’t on good terms”, etc. And it’s like opened a wound of mine and I get scared like when we fight you don’t feel the need to not visit guys pages or like stuff or whatever, and so my mind races. Do you know that in these last two weeks when we were not…
Saturday, December 13, 2025
Caleb
Just like you weren’t for me last night, you just got mad at me. Either way, sorry you’re hurting. I don’t know why she does what she does, but just like last night, I didn’t go look for it or even give her an opportunity. But if she ever even tries to do anything like that, which she hasn’t, I will laugh at her freaking face and tell her I hate her again or just walk away.
Friday, December 26, 2025
Alleigha
You’re always all talk. Enjoy Minnesota and hurting me even more. Heard you almost weren’t going to go. Thanks for doing everything I begged you not to. I gave you a timeline and you didn’t follow it. I’m not important enough. There’s no way you told her you were leaving her and that everything is just okay between you two right now. No way in hell she’d go to Minnesota with you or not tell her family. Something’s off here. You’ll never do it. You always say you will. Then it never happens. I’m done being murdered by you. I don’t know you. All after all you’ve done and all you keep adding on, I truly don’t even know if I want this anymore. Everything is always full of deceit and lies and broken promises. I can’t go through it again. You’ll never leave her. I’ll believe it when I see it. I’m beyond tired of your empty words. I’m going to be strong this time. Please stop reaching out to me. Enjoy your beloved trip. This feels familiar.
Wednesday, December 31, 2025
Alleigha
Caleb, what’s it going to be? Are you following through with leaving her or not? Seriously, let me know immediately. I need to know right now. Are you leaving her or not?
Saturday, January 3, 2026
Alleigha
I need answers and timelines or I’m gone. I cannot keep blindlessly riding along in this game. Make up your damn mind. What are you saying Caleb, that I’m going to have to wait another 21 days for you to leave her? Caleb, you are avoiding the biggest question I asked. When are you leaving her? This is what I need to know because I’m telling you right now, if it’s not next week, I’m completely giving up on us. Your answer is just what I thought it would be. But do you even realize the magnitude of this? If you leave her next week, we can have forever. If you don’t, you will never have me again. I was willing to wait until next week. And of course, you aren’t even responding to that. Do you know how many times you’ve said you’re going to fast and then leave her? This will literally be your fourth time you’ve prayed for protection or fasted about how.
I cannot believe you’re responding this way right now. Right after the cruise, you took 40 days to fast and pray about how He told you yes. Then you took a week or so shortly after that. And after you got afraid to leave her with the date we had, He told you yes. Then you took a weekend and told me He said yes and that you’re going to do it just like David in the Bible. Even though you’re breaking your promises again about going to Minnesota and doing all Christmas things, I can understand why you went because of your girls, Caleb. Even though you should have never promised those things to me, and even though I still hurt like hell from everything you just did, I ache. But I understand, and that’s why I’m even texting it at all. As Jesus is my witness right now, I swear on absolutely everything that I love, if you do not leave her next week, I don’t want this anymore for the rest of my life.
Wednesday, January 8, 2025
Caleb
Alleigha, I’m terribly sorry I had to leave like that. I don’t know if you heard me making comments, but Matt was standing outside of me and so I had to leave. But I’m so terribly sorry how hurt and painful this is. I know I don’t feel exactly what you feel, but I hurt just as deeply in different ways. I understand and value everything you said today. I desire you more than life itself. I will let you know what happens in the next couple of days.
Sunday, January 11, 2026
Alleigha
Your deadline is over.
Saturday, January 11, 2025
Alleigha
Your deadline is over and I haven’t heard any updates from you about anything all weekend like you said you would. I deserve to know the plan and details whether it was happening or not. And the way you’ve talked to me on the phone lately and handled all of this in the middle of my suffering has been the opposite of okay. The lack of intentionality and pursuit from you has also blown my mind. This isn’t who I fell in love with in the beginning. It’s not who I’ve prayed for. You don’t want me enough, and I just have to accept that. It’s time for me to put my big girl pants on, be strong, and officially move on from you, and us. I desperately wish this all could have been different. I hope you’re happy with all you’ve taken from me. I was so ready to spend the rest of my life with you. I had never been more sure about anything and anyone in my entire life. I was wrong.
Monday, January 12, 2026
Caleb
Not sure where to start. I won’t lie. I didn’t talk to her this weekend, but it wasn’t because I didn’t try. I had told you on the phone I wasn’t going to talk to her unless I could get the girls out of the house. Well, I did. I spoke to Todd. I spoke to Todd on Friday and asked if they could and they spent the night with them Saturday with their cousins. I told Douche Saturday morning it was time to talk when the girls left and she literally said no that she didn’t want to. I said I didn’t care what she wanted and that we needed to talk. The girls left to go to Todd and Jill’s at 3:30. Douche took them and then went straight to CLC as she taught Kids Life. after she after she did not come back here. I don’t know where she went or what she did, but she did not come here. Today, I led worship in Springboro and then went out with Adam and Shawn Miller after. Girls were here when I got back. I’m sorry I didn’t get to speak to her, but it wasn’t out of breaking a promise or that I didn’t try. Even today, she left to go do whatever. She’s avoiding me at all costs. But I will say again, this wasn’t a broken promise. I did try. I got the girls out of the house and she left. Reading your message saying it doesn’t matter what I say breaks me. Breaks me. I’m sure you don’t believe any of this, which I can’t do anything about it, but it’s the absolute truth. But I’m sorry I didn’t get to talk to her this weekend. I’m not going to make any excuses as I know I did everything I could. I’m not asking anything from you. I’m not asking you to extend anything as I know you’ve settled this in your heart and you are done. I’m literally numb right now and have no words. I don’t say that in a way to pass blame or to make this about me. I’m numb at this whole situation. This is the absolute worst thing I’ve ever gone through. Not time with you, but Douche and the pain we have felt.
I’m sorry you feel betrayed or that I have stolen things from you. Never in a million years did I ever mean to hurt you. You say that I have hurt you the worst out of anyone in your entire life. That will be something I will live with the rest of my life as I know I didn’t mean for any of it. I never meant to hurt you. I never meant for any of this to happen. I don’t know if you’ll ever respond to this or talk to me again, but I’m sorry. I will never understand any of this. I have so much more to say, but in my heart, I know you don’t believe any of it. I’m sorry I didn’t meet your deadline. Only the Lord knows I did everything I could.
Tuesday, February 3, 2026
Caleb
I’m sorry to text you. I don’t expect you to message back. I’m certain you won’t. I’m not trying to mess with you or your heart or make things hard or to hurt you. I don’t know if you even still have this app or if you have blocked me. I’ve spent a lot of time on my own and in Cleveland. I finished the lyrics to your song. Although it may mean nothing to you, I wanted to give them to you. I have the music which is completely different to what you’ve heard to this point and I was going to record it but I know there will be no way I would ever be able to actually sing to it. Again, this probably and most certainly means nothing to you but I want you to have it. It’s your song and these are my words to you.
Saturday, February 14, 2026
Alleigha
Is this talk with me and Josh about something I deserve to know sooner than later? If you’re stepping down from Easter and or the worship team, don’t make me wait until Tuesday to find out. I have a lot of things to iron out this week and need as much time as possible. It shows me that you read my messages, by the way.
Caleb
I’m not stepping down from Easter. That will be up to Jordan. That will be up to Jordan and you guys.
Alleigha
What’s going on, Caleb? Is what you’re about to tell us going to affect my reputation or job? Or could it in the long run? These are things I need to know before you bring other people into things. I need to be prepared.
Caleb
I would never do anything to put you, your job, or your reputation at risk ever. I don’t want to text about it as I don’t know what will be used, but I have to update you and Josh on my life and what it will look like moving forward. Again, can’t text about it.
Alleigha
What do you mean you don’t know what will be used? Does this have to do with you and I situation at all?
Caleb
Yes.
Alleigha
Then I deserve to know, Caleb. If you were in my shoes, you’d be so anxious.
Caleb
I’m free. I’ll tell you all, but to be careful for us both, shouldn’t text or leave any trails.
Alleigha
What? These are things I need to know immediately because I’m not sure how that happened, but we both know she’s going to bring up messages between us and more. You being free does affect my reputation, job, and life. I need to prepare myself and I need to know how this happened. And I’ve also heard this kind of thing before, so my walls are up. Can we talk about this in person tonight or something?
Caleb
Yes.
Alleigha
This does affect me.
Okay, when and where?
Caleb
After Service.
Alleigha
I have a debrief, but guessing it’ll go quick because Jordan isn’t here. Are you able to wait? And where will we meet? Is the cafe too out in the open or no? My office? I don’t know. But Caleb, you can’t just keep things like this from me. There’s a lot on the line.
Caleb
Yeah, I can still stay after. I’ll explain all. I haven’t been sitting on this. I promise. Lots to update you on. I’m sorry.
Alleigha
Did you come free in a way that protects us? I just need to know that.
Caleb
A million%.
Alleigha
I don’t know how you did this. I’m so curious on how she’s not texting or calling me or blowing up somehow.
Caleb
You haven’t been brought up once.
Alleigha
Does her family know yet?
Caleb
No, I’m going to meet with them either Sunday or Monday. I’m not telling them when, as I don’t want them to ask her what it’s about and then her to get ahead of this. Again, lots to tell. I just don’t think it’s safe to text. I need to remember how to completely wipe this app.
Alleigha
Just delete the thread. It’s end to end encrypted or whatever. We’ll talk tonight. Where do you want to talk so we don’t have to keep texting on here? After debrief, but where?
Caleb
Just so it’s not obvious, want to do your office or out in plain sight so we can say we were talking about Easter if any someone ever asks.
Alleigha
Yeah, let’s just do my office.
Sunday, February 15, 2026
Caleb
Are you sure there’s nothing between you and Zach? The only, and I mean only reason I wouldn’t go through with this right now is if you told me you really didn’t want this, or if you had feelings for him. I know you have every right to pursue whoever you want. But seeing him sitting there with your mom and Justin buying Roxy presents, you guys having tons of inside jokes, you guys texting and him watching your dog, I’m just asking if there’s something there. Again, you have every right to pursue him or see if there’s something there. I just am asking before I do all this.
Alleigha
There’s absolutely nothing between us, and I’d never try to be anything with him. Even the thought of dating him makes me cringe. The only reason why he was sitting with my family was because they love him, because he’s a vegan mainly, and Roxy loved him when he played keys at Justin’s brother’s wedding with me, and they saw him sitting alone at first Wednesday and asked if he wanted to sit with them. That’s it. He got Roxy a gift because they’ve always had a bond. I don’t know what you mean by inside jokes, but whatever you think, Caleb. I’m being completely honest here. He watched my dog because he asked to. Basically everyone except you has met him, but there’s nothing there. Swear on my life, I consider him a good friend and nothing more. …but didn’t know how in the moment. I have a date with someone coming up in March. I barely know him, but figured since you broke me so bad, and to do anything to distract my heart, I’d go. I doubt it’ll become anything. But I do need you to know that and consider that. But I knew that you wouldn’t leave her even if you and I couldn’t be a thing right away. But you deserve to know that as you’re about to do something huge. This literally just happened yesterday. I’m sorry if this hurts you. I’ve been hurt a million times worse by this whole thing. Most of it is to ease the pain and loneliness. And because I truly thought you and I would never be anything ever again. I’m not ready to date anyone, but decided to distract. Whatever it is, it’ll do for my healing. Whatever you want to do is up to you. I’m sure you’ll cancel the meeting with me and Josh now and not follow through. Guessed it. If you showed me pursuit, maybe things could change.
Caleb
Thank you for telling me and being honest. Can I ask who it is?
Alleigha
Not saying there’s no way you can win. Not saying there’s no way you can’t win me back, but you waited so long that now I have a date. You could have had it all on January 11th, and now I’ve slowly been trying to distract myself from the pain and loss of you.
Caleb
I understand. Can I ask who it is? I’m not. I feel like I have to vomit. No.
Alleigha
Okay. And I don’t want to tell you or make anything harder.
Caleb
Please, Alleigha.
Alleigha
You don’t know him Caleb.
Caleb
Please.
Alleigha
I don’t want to. Even though you hurt me, I still care. I still care about you. I don’t want to keep pushing the knife in.
Caleb
Please.
Alleigha
Caleb. And honestly, I’m upset that you’d even think I’d date a guy who has a girlfriend. Caleb, our situation was very different. I wouldn’t do that with just anyone. It really hurts. I’d never in a million years date Zach.
Caleb
I’m sorry. I didn’t mean it to hurt you. Please forgive me. But Alleigha, I’m begging you to tell me who it is. I won’t change. It won’t change anything. No one. And I mean, no one will love you like I can. No one knows you the way I do. No one has the chemistry and passion we did and do. I’m going to fight, but I’m just asking that you would tell me who.
Alleigha
I can’t.
Caleb
Why?
Alleigha
And I’m positive you’ll use this as an excuse to not leave her.
Caleb
If I don’t know him, why is it a big deal? I won’t. Is it a Run with Christ guy?
Alleigha
I don’t know. I just know you’ll stalk him and it’s going to be hard.
Caleb
You would do the same thing.
Alleigha
So, knowing all this, you’re still leaving her this week?
Caleb
Yes.
Alleigha
I had that exact thought yesterday. I was wondering how anyone could ever love me like you did or make me feel the way you did. People have very high standards to meet. But you can’t be upset if he asked me on another date and I said yes. I am following the Spirit with all of this.
Caleb
He said they can’t and you have only seen a love that has had restrictions. I have layers and layers of love for you that haven’t been tapped into yet.
Alleigha
I have always been terrified that no one will ever be enough because of what I had with you.
Caleb
So this will be your second date?
Alleigha
No, it’ll be the first.
Caleb
Okay.
Alleigha
He lives out of state.
Caleb
Okay.
Alleigha
I can’t keep talking about this with you.
Caleb
I’m asking please. I feel like I’m going to pass out, but it will be a million times worse if you don’t tell me.
Alleigha
I just wanted to make you aware that I have a date coming up as you’re making a life altering decision. Caleb, how will you not how will it not get worse if I tell you?
Caleb
Alleigha please.
You would want to know if roles were reversed. Is it a Run of Christ guy?” If he’s out of state, it had to be a connection you have.
Alleigha
You can’t do anything stupid. You do things on Instagram that are just stupid and obvious sometimes.
Caleb
I won’t.
Alleigha
Also, nice Drew Hamilton account you made just to see my stuff.
Caleb
I swear on everything I did not. On my daughters’ lives.
Alleigha
LOL
Caleb
I swear.
Alleigha
You could have just admitted it, would have been funny.
Caleb
Alleigha, I didn’t.
Alleigha
That’s another thing, the lies.
Caleb
I would admit it. I did not make a fake account.
Alleigha
Could I actually live with lies? If I made a fake account, I’d just admit it.
Caleb
So would I. I didn’t.
Alleigha
I’d be like, “Yeah, I wanted to see you and I missed you, but you just lie.
Caleb
Oh yeah. I’m not.
Alleigha
You’ve commented on guy’s posts before. You’ve been crazy with stuff like this. I don’t trust you.
Caleb
I won’t. You can check anything. Ask him anything. I swear I won’t.
Alleigha
When I say ruin us, I meant ruin me and you.
Caleb
I won’t. Please. Please just tell me. I’ll drop it the second it’s over.
Alleigha
His name is Gabriel Day.
Caleb
Okay, thank you. Is he RWC? Is that how you know him?
Alleigha
I haven’t been to Run with Christ in months and don’t plan to ever go again anytime soon. He goes to Grand Canyon University, and he did come back for the summer last year and was a leader for Run with Christ Dayton. That’s how we met. I’m sorry, Caleb. You were really late with leaving the witch. Way too late.
Caleb
You don’t have to apologize. As sick as I feel right now and feel like I’m going to pass out, I’m sorry, Alleigha.
Alleigha
If you don’t want to leave her this soon after finding all this out, I’d get it.
Caleb
Do you have feelings for this guy?
Alleigha
But it’s only a first date and you can either fight or wait longer where there could be more dates and more things that would hurt you. Up to you.
Caleb
I’m not waiting.
Alleigha
I legit barely know him at all. I can’t have feelings for someone I don’t know. Did you already stalk him?
Caleb
I stopped. It hurts too much.
Alleigha
You did this Caleb.
Caleb
I don’t know this guy, but I know he can’t give you what I can. He can’t or never will care and love you with the absolute magnitude that I can.
Alleigha
I was all yours and you threw it away.
Caleb
I know you’re doing this date based off of hurt and pain and you’re getting into something new and I won’t stand in your way, but I need you to know something honestly and without ego. What I feel for you isn’t temporary. It isn’t casual nor is it replaceable. The way I cared for you, protected you, supported you. That came from a place that doesn’t just turn off. It wasn’t for convenience. It wasn’t pride. It was real. And I have so much more to give. I don’t believe love is a competition. And I’m not trying to convince you of anything. I just know the depth of what I can give you. And there is no man who can touch that. I will fight. Whoever walks into your life might care in their own way, but the way I love you was mine, and it was intentional and can’t be replicated. I’m sorry I hurt you and that it took this long. I pray what we had is not over.
Alleigha
I’ve heard this all before and I’ll believe it when I see it. I have zero hope. Honestly, I have nothing left in me after all you did to me.
Caleb
Alleigha, when this is all done and I meet with you and Josh on Tuesday, please give me just one last chance to love you with all that I have. Let me love you with no strings attached or hindrances. Please let me give you a life that you have dreamt of. Let me be the man, your man who loves, supports, and protects you for all of your life. You don’t have to respond to this.
Alleigha
I need time to pray and think about it all. You do what you need to do in the meantime. I wish you would have been more urgent and showed me this all sooner.
Caleb
I tried. I tried the week after and I thought she was going to ruin me and if and you if I follow through. When I leave her and I meet with you and Josh on Tuesday, is one month enough to have is one month enough time to have closed the book on us? I’m not trying to be manipulative or downplay anything. Please know that.
Alleigha
You could still have done it that week. You waited too long. No excuses. What do you mean one month?
Caleb
I understand Alleigha.
Please, with everything in me, no, I’m not trying to make excuses. The absolute last thing. I tried to do it that weekend when you gave the deadline and she disappeared. I then tried to do it the next weekend and she turned evil and manipulated me and thought she had won. What I mean by one month is January 11th was your deadline. And I know I didn’t make it, but for what we’ve shared, what we’ve experienced, what we know and love about each other, one month after the fact and a date with some guy you don’t know, enough to doubt us, to doubt a future, to doubt what we had talked about for so long. Again, I know I hurt you and I can’t expect anything. And so I will fight. I will fight like hell. Please know I’m not trying to manipulate. I can’t imagine what you have felt this last month. What you have had to do to try and distract. I know I only have myself to blame. I will say, is it better late than never? All I can ask for is a chance to love you again. I’ll let you make that decision. And if you choose me, you will not regret it as we finally have a love that is free. If you choose someone else, then I will have to live with that choice the rest of my life, and again blame myself.
Alleigha
You have no idea the absolute hell I’ve been through. I’ve been let down way too many times by you. I have every right to have my walls all the way up. How dare you downplay what I have faced over and over again. How dare you?
Caleb
No.
Alleigha
You hurt me worse than my own father. I can’t keep being the most naive and forgiving person in this world.
Caleb
I’m not downplaying. That’s exactly what I said I wasn’t doing.
Alleigha
Go read your messages. Yes, you are.
Caleb
Okay, if it comes off that way, man, I’m sorry.
Alleigha
You can say you aren’t, but it’s exactly what you’re doing.
Caleb
Cuz it’s literally the opposite of what I’m saying.
Alleigha
You don’t know the true depth of what you’ve done to my heart, Caleb. I don’t believe in love anymore because of you. Do you understand that?
Caleb
Then please forgive me because that’s not what I wanted to do or communicate.
Alleigha
I don’t believe in love anymore.
Caleb
Then let me show you and make you believe again.
Alleigha
It’s all fake and never lasts. I’m not enough.
Caleb
You’re wrong, baby. I’m sorry. I’m sorry for that, but you’re wrong. You are enough. It’s why I’m doing this. It’s why even though I’m scared, I’m doing this.
Alleigha
I don’t believe in love because of you.
Caleb
Then I have to be the one who shows you that it’s real.
Alleigha
blah blah blah. Heard that one before.
Caleb
Then I have to be the one to show you that it’s real.
Alleigha
How can the person that showed me love isn’t real show me that it is?
Caleb
Cuz what we had was real. It is real. It was like nothing anyone ever felt or experienced. We were literally obsessed with each other, but the timing was off. She tainted it all. And though, and through this, you have been hurt. And I can’t say I’m sorry enough. I have to spend the rest of my life making up for that. I have to spend the rest of my life giving you what you deserve and showing you that what we had was and is real. That when it’s free and no strings attached will be the most beautiful thing you will ever experience. I don’t expect you to believe me until it’s done. I’m sorry if talking about this has made you angry. Alleigha, I love you. And if you give me just one more chance, I’ll love you till the day you die. I will show you love is real, and love does last. I thought I knew what love was. It wasn’t until I met you that I truly experienced it. And it’s been an awful, bumpy road to where we are at. But I pray about this, and then I’ll let you go if you need to be done. Looks like we made it. Look how far we’ve come, my baby. We might have took the long way. We knew we’d get there someday. Ain’t nothing better. We beat the odds together. I’m glad we didn’t listen. Look at what we would be missing.
Alleigha
Right when I start to forget, you bring the pain back up again. Nothing can convince me that you’ll actually do it this time. I need to protect myself. What we had wasn’t real. Love isn’t real. Only God’s love is real. Perfect love. Nothing else. I haven’t known one man to show me that.
Caleb
I’m sorry that’s how you feel, and I’m sorry I have upset you tonight. I really and truly am. I never want to hurt you another day for the rest of your life. If the Lord gives me 60 more years to live, I only want to spend them making up for the lost time together and for pains I’ve caused you. If allowed, I will show you otherwise. Again, I’m so sorry I’ve upset you.
Alleigha
Thank you for apologizing. We’ll see what happens. My hands are open to the Lord and whatever His will is for my life, and no matter the cost or who it affects, I’m completely following Him.
Caleb
Completely fair.
Alleigha
This has happened so many times. You completely crush my life and then then you say you want to make up for it for the rest of your life. It’s an endless cycle. Something will change your mind. Always does.
Caleb
You have every right to say that. You just told me you’re going out with someone, someone I’m sure that you talk to regularly, someone that you obviously have some attraction to as you wouldn’t have said yes to it otherwise. I have zero guarantee that you will let me love you again. and I have zero guarantee that you even want me again. With all that said, I’m still going to do it. And I’ll prove it to you Tuesday.
Alleigha
We don’t talk regularly at all.
Caleb
I wouldn’t have texted or involved Josh if I wasn’t serious.
Alleigha
Okay.
Caleb
You’re attracted to him anyways. I’m going to do it.
Alleigha
Don’t know him. Caleb, you have no right to be saying all that or getting stuff out of me like this. You already know way more than you deserve to know.
Caleb
I know. That’s why I changed the subject quick.
Alleigha
Are you sure about all this?
Caleb
Yes.
Alleigha
You need to figure out where you’ll live.
Caleb
I have a buddy I went to college with, Gavin Middleton. He’s in the Air Force and just moved here and works at Wright- Patt.
Alleigha
Okay.
Caleb
Him or I might ask Ben at Wright-Patt. He has rentals.
Alleigha
And for your job?
Caleb
I have a good bit saved up in my 401(k) and other stuff. I’d be good for a while if I couldn’t find something, but all this stuff, I gotta figure out. Thought about talking to Jason Norman as he always wants me to lead worship. Also still have all these contractors that I know that I could get a job at.
Alleigha
You’ll be fine.
Caleb
There’s other stuff I know I could look into as well. So, lots to do here. Can I ask one thing? Where are you going for your date?
Alleigha
Coffee.
Caleb
Okay, ignore me if I’m snooping in a back corner.
Alleigha
Caleb.
Caleb
Please don’t open your heart to him. I’m sorry, I have no right. I’m sorry. It’s my fault.
Alleigha
Insanely hard situation for sure. You really came out of the blue with all this.
Caleb
When I asked you tonight if you had found someone, you said no. Said I could ask anyone close to you and they would tell you. Said you wouldn’t date anyone right now. Did you mean that or were you just taken off guard by this all?
Alleigha
Because I didn’t find anyone. This is a casual date. I don’t count this as finding someone. I also really did want to tell you, but I didn’t know how and didn’t have any time to prepare. Had no idea you were going to come out with all this today.
Let’s go to sleep.
Caleb
Okay, go ahead. Okay, good night Alleigha. I’ll see you tomorrow.
Alleigha
Remember to keep me updated on things. I need to know when you’re talking to people and the when of things happening as all of this directly affects me. Doubt you’re going to do anything today though when you said you were. This is always what happens. It’s easy to say you’ll do it all and then when the week or day comes you’ll chicken out or there’s some type of excuse. It’s always all talk. We’ll see what actually happens. I’m guarding my heart incredibly. Have a good day.
Caleb
I went to lunch on my own. Practiced what I would say. Went to their house and no one was there. Stayed a little while and nothing. Came back here to be with the girls and Douche left. I’m not chickening out or making excuses. I told you straight up I’d do it today or Monday. I said those exact words and I won’t leave tomorrow until I talk to them. I have no jobs tomorrow and so I’ll be at the barn the whole day, so we’ll 100% do it.
Alleigha
Thanks for the update. I had to ask to get one. I’m so anxious about this because as soon as they find out things are blowing up. That’s when it gets real. If you’d keep me in the loop without me having to ask, that would be great.
Caleb
I’m sorry. I will.
Alleigha
Also, if you change your mind, just let me know. All in your hands.
Caleb
Since they weren’t home, I didn’t have any update. I’m not changing my mind.
Alleigha
Yeah, but you not texting me anything made me 100% believe you chickenened out.
Caleb
If doing this gives me a 1% chance to have you, I’m doing it.
Alleigha
It’s great to know the time and details of this stuff. I could have gotten a “I’m doing it tomorrow” so I’m not in my head. Do you really mean this?
Caleb
With everything in me, I’ve stared at you all day today, begging Jesus for one more chance to write the wrongs I’ve done to make you the happiest person alive.
Alleigha
You know, Todd and Jill are going to pull the God can heal any marriage. You need to stay.
Caleb
Don’t care. Literally could care less what they say. Todd is going to flip, but I don’t care.
Alleigha
I know this is scary. I need I need to know if you wake up tomorrow and change your mind.
Caleb
I’ll text you as soon as my eyes open.
Alleigha
I’m scared too.
Caleb
I’ll protect you at all costs.
Alleigha
But no matter what happens between me and you, I need you to be free from a fake life and her.
Caleb
I can’t even imagine being free, releasing this weight and burden.
Alleigha
Well, it’s right around the corner. If you follow through, it’s going to be harder than hell at first, but it’ll be worth it in the long run. It’s up to you. You need to follow the voice of God. Keep me updated.
Caleb
I promise I will. I’ll text you when I wake up confirming nothing has changed and then I’ll be at the barn around 9:00 and we’ll let you know when I’m heading there. I will not leave that barn tomorrow until I talk
Alleigha
I’m sure they’ll be out of town or something. Something will happen.
Caleb
Then I’ll FaceTime them. Nothing is stopping me, Alleigha.
Alleigha
One time it was looking in your girl’s eyes and not wanting to hurt them. That could happen again, too. When are you telling them?
Caleb
I get there at 9:00 and we’ll see if both cars are there. If they are, I’m doing it right away.
Alleigha
I’m asking about your girls, Caleb, what are you telling your girls?
Caleb
Oh, sorry. Tomorrow as well. They don’t have school, so I’m going to come get them after. It’s going to be crazy moving forward, so just taking things as it comes, but I will 100% get the girls.
Alleigha
Will you be telling Matt or anyone else? How will you word it to the girls? And are you moving your stuff out tomorrow? You better ask people if you could stay with them today or something. Are you taking Rosie?
Caleb
I’m just going to be truthful with the girls. Won’t be graphic, but we’ll say that Ashley sinned and betrayed any trust or loyalty. We’ll read them the Bible verse about a man leaving because of this. I’ll be much more sensitive to them, but just have to be honest with them. I will tell Matt tomorrow after I talk to Todd and Jill. I’m out of there and I’m going to do a hotel tomorrow. Already been looking at rates on Miller Lane and I won’t take Rosie right away until I find a place. Do I even have a 1% chance at another shot with you?
It’s kind of crazy. I’m not scared. I’m not scared about tomorrow. I mean, I’m not looking forward to it, and it’s about to be a crapfest here moving forward, but I’m not scared of it. I’m terrified your heart has moved on. I’ve had the worst daydreams about you and this Gabriel. I’m doing it regardless, but I’m terrified you don’t want this.
Alleigha
Are you sure that won’t break the girls and make them think bad of their mother? This really is about to change their lives. But I went through my parents getting divorced three different times. They will get through it. I turned out okay. It made me stronger. I hope she doesn’t try to keep Rosie.
Caleb
That means a lot that you said that. Gives me hope for them.
Alleigha
Just make sure you deliver in a way that they won’t be completely rocked. Let it out easily.
Caleb
How do you think I should do it?
Alleigha
With how young they are, I’m not sure. I was about their age when mom left the first John. She didn’t tell me that he cheated until later in life. But your situation is different. As Ashley said, she’s going to drag your name in the mud to your girls. So, do you beat her to it? You need to do everything you can to keep your relationship with them whole. Yes, Caleb, there’s still a chance. I haven’t been able to stop thinking about this.
Caleb
I 100% have a better relationship with them than she does.
Alleigha
But you need to realize that where there’s a chance, there’s also the opposite. I’m following Jesus in this, but you asked if there’s a 1% chance. Yes. More than that. I’m not trying to lead you on, but yes.
Caleb
They will believe me and I’ll be so sensitive to them and let them know I’ll always be here and will love them forever. I have so much in my head for what I’ll say to them.
Alleigha
I hope you get full custody. Do you think you’ll get full custody? When are you going back to pack your stuff? Are you going to do it with your girls there?
Caleb
I don’t know. I’m clueless to how this stuff works. I have all the money and she doesn’t. So, I’m not sure how they look at this.
Alleigha
I’m sure there’s a big chance you’ll get full custody, but you’d also get the option to choose if you did. My mom could have had full custody, but she chose to let John have them half the time.
Caleb
Do the kids get a say in any of this?
Alleigha
It may be up to you, but honestly, you won’t have a job after all this, Caleb. You have to think about that. You need to get a job as fast as you possibly can so you can have the upper hand, okay?” And no, since they’re not 18, they can’t choose.
Caleb
I have. Talking to Burton today even made me think about talking to Dave. Also, my bass player at St. Free Chapel is someone who places people in ministry jobs. He always messages me about worship leader jobs all over. But yeah, I’ll get a job as soon as possible so I do have the upper hand.
Alleigha
I would hold off on a worship leader job for now.
Caleb
I’m going to pull my 401k right away so I have that.
Alleigha
That comes with such a heavy weight and you need time to heal.
Caleb
Probably right.
Alleigha
I would absolutely ask Dave about a job. That’s a great idea. He needs staff.
Caleb
Dave has made sad comments before about me and him working.
Alleigha
That is actually perfect.
Caleb
That and drinking whiskey.
Alleigha
He’s been through divorce, too, so he will understand. Yeah, that’s him. I actually tried some of his whiskey the other day.
Caleb
You like it?
Alleigha
Only one sip. It’s good for a dude.
Caleb
It burns from what I remember.
Alleigha
It’s incredibly strong.
Yes, anyways, let me think about what else. Just know that tomorrow won’t be the last time you’re seeing her. Going to Court dates and papers to sign and all kinds of stuff.
Caleb
For sure.
Alleigha
Divorces take a while to be finalized.
Caleb
If I work with Dave, I can stay local and see the girls and you if you let me.
Alleigha
Especially if the other person slows it down. Work with Dave for real. I’m sure he’d let you stay in his basement, too.
Caleb
I almost need to stay local right away so I don’t let her start lies or rumors. I need to be here to put an end to anything like that.
Alleigha
Yes, don’t go to Minnesota right now. They will need you.
Caleb
I bet my mom would come here once I tell her.
Alleigha
That would be very good for you. When will you tell your family?
Caleb
I can’t wait to tell them, especially Adam.
Alleigha
Your parents will be surprised, won’t they?
Caleb
I’m sure they will be.
Alleigha
Because yall are all lovey when you go to Minnesota, huh? Jees, I can’t talk about that.
Caleb
Absolutely not.
Alleigha
Sounds like you have just about everything figured out. I’d honestly call Dave tomorrow or after you meet with me and Josh.
Caleb
You and Josh Tuesday, then Jordan shortly after. Yeah, I’m actually going to call Dave right away.
Alleigha
Just so you have a job come Court. And you cannot hesitate to meet with Jordan.
Caleb
For sure I won’t. Or her and her family. Or her and her family go before you. You know the Smiths. I think they’ll try to get me to reconsider all this before they meet with him. That’s why I want to get out ahead of all of them.
Alleigha
I know they will. I know for a fact that they will do everything they can. You have to know how you’re responding to that ahead of time.
Caleb
I’ll be ready.
Alleigha
They have a way with their words. I see them convincing you or even making you feel like an awful person to your girls. You have to choose yourself and your peace. Because 9 years down the road when your girls are all moved out, you’ll have to live with your decisions forever.
Caleb
I know how they work. It won’t happen. I’m choosing peace. I’m choosing freedom. and I’m choosing you.
Alleigha
I’m not even trying to convince you to be with me. I just so badly want you to be free. I know how awful it’s been, and I’m sorry, but you’ve finally grown the balls to do what you should have done years ago. This is going to sting, but it’s going to be so much better in the end.
Caleb
I know you’re right. It’s been a long road for sure. Knowing it’s right around the corner makes me cry. It’s going to be hell. I know I’m not naive to that, but knowing I’m free from her, my gosh.
Alleigha
It will be good.
Caleb
Thank you for helping me think through these things.
Alleigha
I’m trying to think if there’s anything else. I’ve just been through this so many times. Seeing it, you know.
Caleb
For sure you turning out as amazing as you are and going through it three times gives me extreme hope for the girls.
Alleigha
I’m not sure how long the divorce process will take. Can’t remember. Thanks for saying that. It definitely put me through a lot of pain in my life though, but I’m better because of it all. God kept me.
Caleb
You are, and you have an amazing testimony that has touched and helped a ton of people.
Alleigha
But anyways, I’m not sure how long it’ll take to get it finalized. I remember Davita had to wait months for her divorce to be finalized because her ex was taking forever on something purposefully or something. So, Ashley could throw a wrench in it all and take her time. She’ll be in denial.
Caleb
Gosh, I hope she doesn’t.
Alleigha
Delete those messages real quick just in case.
Caleb
Okay.
Alleigha
We just need to be so careful.
Caleb
Is there another way I can text you? Like I might have to delete this app tomorrow. I don’t know.
Alleigha
This is the safest way to text.
Caleb
I need a burner phone.
Alleigha
I actually have one you could use.
Caleb
Really? Oh, from dropping yours in the ocean.
Alleigha
Yeah, it has limited minutes through, and it’s cracked, but that’s not a bad idea.
Caleb
I know Wal-Mart sells phones. I may take a look. These prepaid phones and whatnot.
Alleigha
You could also get your own burner phone from Target. That’s where I got mine. Yeah, get one with minutes. It’ll be cheaper.
Caleb
Okay, I’ll look for sure.
Alleigha
Just let me know. I need to stay updated.
Caleb
So we’re 100%. These messages can’t be retrieved.
Alleigha
That’s what I found when ChatGPT’d it. I’ll check again. I remember it saying that once these threads are deleted, you can’t get them back.
Caleb
Okay, good deal.
Alleigha
You’ll need to find a place to live as soon as possible that helps with getting custody.
Caleb
Man, going to be crazy. Okay, good to know.
Alleigha
My fear is that she retrieves those messages between me and you somehow.
Caleb
And I haven’t backed up my phone in forever, so no way messages would be anywhere.
Alleigha
Did you read everything?
Caleb
Yes, I did. I wiped the iPad clear. Literally, the girls use it now. They have their own account.
Alleigha
But what if she retrieves the screenshot she had on her phone somehow?
Caleb
Would she have any right to pull to try and pull messages?
Alleigha
She may go to extreme measures to find those to keep her reputation good and then my life is ruined. It doesn’t sound like it. I don’t know, Caleb, because if she is so earnestly saying to the judge or her lawyer that she saw messages between us, what if they do a subpoena or something to see them?
Caleb
I searched her phone the night that night forever. They are nowhere. I checked emails, everything.
Alleigha
Do you see what I’m saying though?
Caleb
I don’t think they can legally do a subpoena to check messages if there is no real precedent for it.
Alleigha
True.
Caleb
It’s just going to come down to my word against hers, but unfortunately for her, I have a second person who can collaborate the truth. Someone who is totally unrelated to all of this, who would have no reason to lie about anything. She never told, showed anyone this, and so she has no one who could back her story. I do. I know it doesn’t mean much to you anymore, but I give you my word. I will protect you. I will take the fall and go down with it before I ever let you get dragged into this somehow. Honestly, she is going to sound incredibly pathetic and desperate bringing up something that happened 2 years ago with zero evidence. Trying to get dirt on me because she is going through a divorce.
Alleigha
Sounds good, I agree. Okay, read these.
Caleb
So again, she has no hard evidence or proof. If she would have kept the messages, sure, but she deleted them. I deleted them off the iPad. I wiped the iPad. I’ve reset my phone multiple times. Starting over. And so her saying, “Well, he cheated, too” is not hard enough evidence to call for a phone examination. At least that’s how I read it. I never hurt the girls. They don’t know. They don’t know about this. And so she couldn’t say what I did was detrimental. And it’s saying cell carriers rarely keep messages. It was 2 years ago.
Alleigha
I hope she doesn’t have the messages somehow, but you checked.
Caleb
And it says if they were deleted long before the divorce, it’s way harder.
Alleigha
I believe God will protect us.
Caleb
I 100% checked.
Alleigha
Now, I’m going to send you everything it told me about the divorce process. Okay, read all this very crucial stuff.
Caleb
Okay, thank you Alleigha. Regarding tomorrow, let me let me be the one who texts you first, and let’s always delete these threads as soon as we’re done.
Alleigha
Yep. Are you reading every sentence of those?
Caleb
So, I’m going to talk to Dave, get a job as soon as possible, pull my 401k so I’ll have money to get a place and support the girls.
Alleigha
You just going to get an apartment?
Caleb
Probably right away. Yeah. Or a condo or something. Again, Ben has a lot of rentals. I know he’ll help me. I know he’s helped me out.
Alleigha
Sounds good. Please read the screenshots. I took a lot of time researching and screenshotting for you.
Caleb
I have been. They’re so helpful.
Alleigha
No way you read it all.
Caleb
I can’t thank you enough. Seriously, my mind is going a million miles an hour, and so you helping is so huge. I’m pretty sure I’ve gone through all of them. I’ll go back and read again.
Alleigha
I know you can’t search anything on your phone, so let me know if you have any other questions you want me to ask. Did you get my most recent ones?
Caleb
The one that said that says strategic note.
Alleigha
all the ones I sent at 612.
Caleb
I missed the ones above that.
Alleigha
I sent 12. Yep.
Caleb
Sorry, reading now.
Alleigha
Those first 10 are the whole process. Very important to read.
Caleb
I’ve got fault grounds.
Alleigha
Keep reading. Hopefully this only takes 2 months for you. It says it can take up to 18.
Caleb
Okay, I did just think of something. The part that says financial records can be requested. We obviously have Venmo transactions. We need to think if that this comes up what these were.
Alleigha
Okay, we should go delete our transactions right now. Let me ask Chat about Venmo.
Caleb
I don’t think you can.
Alleigha
Let me ask Chat.
Caleb
They’re on my bank transactions records.
Alleigha
Oh shoot. Let me ask you some questions. Good thinking.
Caleb
My VENMO is private and so no one can see what I do and never said anything suspicious on these transactions. Like when you leave the reason for money, I never left a heart or say I love you or anything like that.Might have said coffee or something stupid. I do always remember thinking about that and being super vague when I sent those. This is all “if”. But if this came up, which again is at least a year or so ago, could say we serve on the worship team and I sent you money to help with pizza for team or coffee for events. Being nice to someone is not enough evidence to hurt us. No way. Ashley and her entire family are going to be way too prideful to try and drag this out. They will not want to be embarrassed going to court for months and months. As well, I would step in and say, “For the health of Alyssa and Ava, we need to get this done quick” so they are not subjugated to embarrassment by their peers and friends. Todd and Jill will not want this to go on long, and neither will Ashley. I can almost guarantee you that. I could only see this going long if it was my word against hers, and I was trying to convince the court that this happened. But again, my neighbor walking outside the other day made everything click. He is the key to all this. If this went to court, I could have him testify and everything would be done. And then it would just go into dividing up stuff, which at this point, I could care less. I just want to be free of her, have my girls, and have a chance to start a life with you.
Alleigha
Do you have your neighbor’s number? You need to call him tomorrow. I’m going to look at our transactions and see if there’s anything sketchy on there.
Caleb
Yes, I have his number. I absolutely am going to involve him right away. I planned on it.
Alleigha
I don’t mean to be pushy. Just saying, trying to help.
Caleb
I know you’ve been a huge help.
Alleigha
Okay, these aren’t bad at all. The only bad thing is the amount of money spent.
Caleb
And I’m not being naive. I know the seriousness of all this stuff and can’t truly thank you enough for helping me with all this. But once evidence comes out that Ashley did this, her parents and her are not going to want to make this messy. Todd is such a rule follower and so against courts and other things, there’s no way he’ll want to go to court or push Ashley to do any of this. We had a job just several months ago not pay $10,000 worth to us. We had every right to sue them. We had every invoice and email ready to show. But Todd said he didn’t believe in that stuff and that we would be fine.
Alleigha
These are the history of all of our transactions.
Caleb
If these ever came out, I would just be honest and say that you and I built a really close friendship during all this. These transactions won’t prove anything about any messages that have been deleted. And I don’t know about you, but I wasn’t in love. I am in love and I’m desperately desiring any and everything with you.
Alleigha
I don’t know. It’ll be different as this is his daughter and she will absolutely try and do everything she can to stop it from happening to protect herself. You may see a new side of her and her family and be surprised. That’s true. We can be honest. Or you, not we.
Caleb
You could be right, but I know the Lord said you would protect me through this, and I know He’s going to protect you.
Alleigha
We’ll see. I’m scared. I’ve repented more times than I can count.
Caleb
Are you okay that I still do this?
Alleigha
I want you free. I can’t think of me here. You do what you need to do. You don’t deserve a lie of a life. Whether we end up together or not, you deserve to be free of her. Are you okay that you still do this?
Caleb
I am.
Alleigha
Do you believe that a life alone is better than a fake life with her?
Caleb
Anything is better than a fake life with her.
Alleigha
Then do it and don’t turn back.
Caleb
Okay, I will. I am.
Alleigha
We’ll see.
Caleb
Yes, you will.
Alleigha
You need to be 1 million% sure about all of this. I don’t want you living with regrets.
Caleb
The only regret I have is hurting you. And if I didn’t give us one last chance, I’m beyond sure.
Alleigha
Get your freedom. It’s long awaited. You’ve wasted 15 years of your life. Where is she right now? And where are your girls? How are you able to text me this much? Be honest, has she tried to talk to you today or yesterday at all? I need updates on those things too and all the conversations you have for tomorrow and anyone.
Caleb
I feel like Job right now. I’ve gone through so much turmoil and loss, but feel as if Joy and Restoration is around the corner. I don’t know where she is. Both girls are sick, so we’ve been watching movies.
I got you. And she has not called or texted me.
Alleigha
And yes, a Job story for sure. He will double your portions just like Job.
Caleb
If I get just one thing out of all this, it will be my immeasurably more than I could ever ever ever hope or imagine.
Alleigha
I pray that for you in whatever capacity that looks like. You sure you have no idea where she’s at? You sure she’s not telling anyone you’re leaving or talking to anyone? Is she home or gone?
Caleb
You know what capacity that looks like?
Alleigha
Are you in your office or living room? Don’t forget to get a burner phone tomorrow first thing.
Caleb
I thought about if she was with Kayla or her parents, but I have no idea. I literally just left to go to CVS to get kids Tylenol.
Alleigha
So she’s gone?
Caleb
Yes.
Alleigha
What if she’s confiding in them?” I’m nervous she’s getting ahead of things before you. Do you think that’s possible?
Caleb
She can confide all she wants. The truth will come out.
Alleigha
It’s important that you tell them tomorrow. You have to as soon as possible.
Caleb
But I don’t think she is cuz she won’t want to put this in motion.
Alleigha
I bet she might be Caleb. I don’t know. I don’t know her, but I’m sure there’s a high chance. Was she home when you got home?
Caleb
What would she be saying?” Mom, Dad, I cheated and Caleb might leave me. I don’t know.
Alleigha
I’m sure she’s saying something about me and you.
Caleb
She was right when I got back and she left almost immediately.
Alleigha
And getting advice and bringing up messages. Did she say anything to you, Caleb? I need honesty. If you want any chance with me, you will need to be honest from now going forward.
Caleb
She did not. I walked in, went straight to the girls, and she said, “Girls, I’ll be back.” Alyssa said, “Where are you going?” And she said, “Got to go run errands.”
Alleigha
Okay, nothing yesterday either, morning or evening?
Caleb
I promise to tell you everything. I’ll buy you an iPad and give you my iCloud so you can see anything that comes in.
Yesterday after church, I drove around for a while, was struggling, got back and they were playing Life. Girls got up and gave me a hug and asked how church was. And I said, “I struggled on piano. I need to work on some stuff, work some stuff out.” And they said they could come in after the game and watch a movie with me there. And they did. We watched Poliana. Douche did not come in. She went to the room. I tucked them in after the movie and went to my office for the night. Not a single word to her, not one. Left early this morning, actually sat in the church parking lot for a while, cried, went in the green room and tried to pick up a little, made your tea, and then went to my spot in the sanctuary. And you know the rest of my day today.
Alleigha
Thank you for sharing all that.
Caleb
Tomorrow, going to go lift early, come back, get changed, and leave as soon as possible, and then it all goes down.
Alleigha
I do appreciate it.
Caleb
You’re welcome.
Alleigha
I’m going to be praying for you every chance that I get.
Caleb
Thank you. That means more than you know.
Alleigha
There’s still time to change your mind.
Caleb
Only chance I change my mind is if you directly tell me not to do it.
Alleigha
Well, that won’t be happening. I’m completely choosing selflessness in this situation.
Caleb
I’m not changing my mind. I’ve waited entirely too long for this. I’ve hurt you entirely too much from this. I owe this to myself and I owe this to you.
Alleigha
As long as you’ve never been more sure of anything in your life, I think we’ve got everything covered.
Caleb
I am back and was picking up in my office a little and found this old iPad. *sends picture of IPad You can have this to check on anything you want. I’ve never been more sure.
Alleigha
I’ll do that later. No need to do that now. Thank you for offering.
Caleb
Of course.
Alleigha
I don’t want to act like boyfriend and girlfriend. Also, I’m really nervous that she’s out talking to them.
Caleb
I’m sorry.
Alleigha
Her decorations are hideous.
Caleb
I literally hate it all.
Alleigha
I’m upset that you’re in the living room. That leaves room for her to watch TV with y’all when she’s back. Did you already eat dinner with the girls? Get ahead of that.
Caleb
Yeah, I made them chicken nuggets and strawberries.
Alleigha
Okay.
Caleb
I would totally go in my office, but they both wanted to lay down. If she gets back and they are still up, I’ll go immediately to the office.
Alleigha
Sounds good.
Caleb
I wanted to thank you again for looking all that up and screenshotting it.
Alleigha
You’re welcome. Just want to make sure all of this was gone about the correct way. I want you to be as prepared as possible. If you have any other questions for me to ask Chat, let me know. I will. I know it’s dangerous to look stuff up on your phone.
Caleb
Yeah, I definitely don’t want to look anything up, so it’s been huge and super helpful. I’ll let you know if I think of anything.
Alleigha
Okay, are you deleting our threads regularly?
Caleb
Yes, I will right now again.
Alleigha
I’m really worried that she is at her family’s confiding in them.
Caleb
If she gets back, want me to ask her where she was and then go to my office?
Alleigha
That’s up to you.
Caleb
The girls will absolutely ask where she was. I’ll let them ask and then I’ll ask them when I tuck them in. If she gets here after they’re in bed, I’ll ask. But if she was with her parents confiding, I would have gotten a call. Todd would try to fix this. He can’t help himself. He inserts himself into everything and something like this, he would try to fix and talk as soon as possible. I don’t think she’s with them.
Alleigha
Okay, sounds good. I wouldn’t ask her yourself. She’ll think you care about her life and then could go into more conversation.
Caleb
Okay, I won’t ask. Good point.
Alleigha
Just show her you couldn’t care less about where she was or her life at all.
Caleb
Done. Easy.
Alleigha
Okay.
Caleb
Do you want to hear the song I wrote for you with an AI voice over? I have this software called 11 Labs where I loaded the song on piano and sang it with my computer microphone to which I can pick an AI voice to sing it better.
Alleigha
I don’t know if I’m ready to listen to this yet. I’m sorry.
Caleb
Okay, I’m sorry.
Alleigha
And I’m with my family. I don’t want to cry.
Caleb
I’m really sorry.
Alleigha
I’ll listen to it someday soon, so keep it saved. Just not now. I’m not ready.
Caleb
I was trying to send it as I was going to delete anything on my phone that made me suspicious, but I completely understand where you’re coming from. That was insensitive of me for asking and sending it. And I’m sorry. Hope you have a great night with the family. She just got back. I’m going to the office.
Alleigha
So, you’re going to delete it? You can never retrieve it. Just send it to me and I’ll listen when I’m ready. Did she say anything to you? Be honest. Are the girls in bed?
Caleb
Nothing. I heard the garage, so I went to the office. Girls are finishing, “It takes Two.” I told them to brush their teeth and come get me when done and I’ll tuck them in.
Alleigha
Okay, let me know if she comes in the office at all and if she says anything or if the girls tell you where she was. Send me the song and I’ll save it, even if it’s a month from now. I don’t want it to be erased.
Caleb
Are you sure? It messed up the outro, as it’s supposed to be down and the vocals aren’t exactly how I want, as it made them a little rocker at times but the melody is correct. I tried to sing it with passion and AI took it and went a little extreme.
Alleigha
It’s okay. I’m going to listen to it later, but just send it.
Caleb
*sends song*
Alleigha
I saved it. I’ll listen to it one day. Thanks for sending.
Caleb
You’re welcome. I’m going to tuck the girls in now.
Alleigha
This is the last time you’ll tuck them in at that house. Do you realize that?
Caleb
Yes, last time I’ll have to do a lot of things. Was thinking about this earlier.
Alleigha
Are you thinking of that as a bad thing or sad thing?
Caleb
No, not as a bad way. I can’t wait to not have to hide in this room, and be free. I don’t want to think of not tucking my girls in, but I’m believing it will all work out.
Alleigha
You’re not sad to leave that house at all? A lot of memories made there. Years of them.
Caleb
I’m not attached to this house at all. A lot of bad memories. I want to make new ones somewhere new. And the girls said, “Douche took a mommy day and went shopping in Columbus.”
Alleigha
Okay, I’m sure she told you that herself.
Caleb
Absolutely not. Still in here.
Alleigha
Where are you both now? Okay. Didn’t the messages she saw and screenshot talk about how you were going to be my hubby for a week or something? That’s what I’m worried about.
Caleb
She doesn’t have them anymore. She has nothing on us. She thinks I was hacked. I will not let you get hurt through this.
Alleigha
What if she retrieves them? What if she secretly has them hiding somewhere?
Caleb
She would have to hire someone to do it almost two years ago. May not even be able to get them. This entire thing is going to be centered around her cheating on me and how I can’t live a fake life anymore. She and her parents are going to try and convince me to stay. She’s not going to bring up you and us as that would just make things worse. You and I wouldn’t go public or anything and so I think she wouldn’t want to bring it up right away if at all, as it’s more embarrassment for her.
Alleigha
I hope that’s the case. Did we talk about how you were going to be my hubby for a week?
Caleb
I honestly don’t remember.
Alleigha
I think we did talk about that. I remember hubby for a week, the ring, the ring picture, and Teddy Swims. That’s it. We were idiots for texting on iMessage. I can’t believe this was that long ago. Can’t believe this that this coming March 3rd would have been our two years. So much has happened these past 2 years.
Caleb
I know, iMessage wasn’t smart. It has been a crazy two years. Some of the best and hardest things. Just got to my office, by the way.
Alleigha
We’ll see if I lose my job this week.
Caleb
You will not.
Alleigha
All right.
Caleb
But if you want me to change my mind, you have to tell me quick.
Alleigha
I’m choosing selflessness.
Caleb
Okay.
Alleigha
What’s going through your head tonight?
Caleb
Just thinking of all I have to do tomorrow.
Alleigha
Oh, okay. I bet.
Caleb
I got on Instagram and it messed with me, so I’m struggling as well, but just trying to take one thing at a time. Todd and Jill first, grab my two girls and talk to them, then my neighbor, then Dave.
Alleigha
Don’t forget the burner phone and call me when it’s all done on the burner.
Caleb
Burner phone. Thank you.
Alleigha
If you don’t want to do this and you’re second guessing, please just tell me. Tell me what’s going through your head, even if it’s doubt.
Caleb
I’m doing it, Alleigha. I’m not doubting. My mind is racing, but I’m not going back.
Alleigha
I’d also put texting Jordan on that list for tomorrow, too, so you meet with him before the Smiths too.
Caleb
Is he back from California?
Alleigha
Are you second guessing in your mind at all? Thinking that there may be a better time, etc. He’s back tomorrow. I’m housesitting for them. Schedule a meeting with him this week, though.
Caleb
Should I just try to find him after I talk to you and Josh?
Alleigha
Maybe yes.
Caleb
Should I text him now? Too late?
Alleigha
I text him beforehand and just say it’s important, too. He is always busy on Tuesdays. Just text him first thing tomorrow.
Caleb
Okay.
Alleigha
Add that to your list. Are you second guessing the timing of this all? Need your honest, vulnerable thoughts.
Caleb
No.
Alleigha
There’s no way you’re not wondering if this is the wrong decision.
Caleb
I don’t think there will ever be a good timing of this. I just have to do it.
Alleigha
Exactly, but are you second guessing anything? Be honest. This is life altering.
Caleb
I can be vulnerable, but know you need action and not words. So, this is why I haven’t said much.
Alleigha
I need both. Do you know? Do you know that you need to do this? Do you 100% know this is the right decision?
Caleb
Okay, actions will come tomorrow. I’ll never not be scared to do this as I never want to hurt my daughters. That will always be there. But this month away from you has terrified me beyond belief. You said you don’t want me to regret anything. I’m living in regret as we speak. Losing you and hurting you has murdered me. I know that the way I feel about you is beyond anything that’s anywhere else. I know I can’t live without you. And so again, if this gives me a 1% chance to spend my life with you, it’s the 100% right decision.
Alleigha
You’re saying all the right things, Caleb, like you always do. I hope it’s all real this time.
Caleb
I love you with all my heart, and I just want a chance. Just one more. I know you’re still going through with your date and see where that goes. I just pray your heart remembers me, remembers us, remembers the soul ties we have.
Alleigha
I could never forget.
I can’t stop thinking about every time we ended and the absolute weeping, screaming, and agony that I went through each time, not being able to eat, so much more. I am so afraid of feeling that again. I gave you everything. And you threw it away so many times. Hurt me with trips. It never ended for me. The pain never ends.
Caleb
I have no words that express how horrible I feel. This is why I live in a state of regret. I’ve hurt the one who means the most to me. I need to rid myself of Douche so that I can start completely free and give you all of me. No strings attached, no hindrances, no confinements, just 100% all of me. What you have gone through is horrible, I know. But what I want to give and make up for is all I want a chance to do. But I’m sorry, Alleigha. I’m sorry this has been such a rocky and hard road for you. I’m sorry I’ve hurt you. I’m sorry I’ve made you doubt things. I’m sorry I could never give you up. I didn’t know how. I didn’t know how and I hurt you so much in the process. My heart and soul is intertwined to yours. And I never knew how to move on. And so again, I’m sorry for the pain you’ve experienced. If given the chance, I will spend every second of every day making up for it. Making up for it with nothing holding me back. I’m so so sorry.
Alleigha
I’m not trying to give you lip service either.
Caleb
I can’t apologize enough. I didn’t know how to let you go. I can’t let you go.
Alleigha
Caleb, I’ve never felt anything as deep as I felt with you. I trusted you with my heart. I’m terrified, but thank you for saying all that. We will see if your actions finally match your words.
Caleb
And I’ve never felt anything like it either. It’s why I know it’s actually real and actually the deepest and most desired love anyone has ever seen, heard of, or experienced. I’m terrified as well, but tomorrow it all starts.
Alleigha
Are you more excited or scared?
Caleb
Well, I got a pretty massive day tomorrow, so I’m going to head to sleep. Please be praying for me and I’ll update you the whole time. Both.
Alleigha
Oh, okay. Sleep good. I’ll be praying.
Caleb
Unless you can talk.
Alleigha
You can get some rest.
Caleb
Are you still with family or at Jordan’s?
Alleigha
Leaving soon. You don’t have to wait for me. You need to rest. I want to make sure you get back safe.
Caleb
Sorry, boyfriend thing.
Alleigha
I just can’t believe you are doing this tomorrow.
Caleb
Sorry.
Alleigha
You don’t have to.
Caleb
What have you guys done all night?
Alleigha
Me and Michaela are playing Sims. Also I’ll be busy tomorrow evening, but up until then, you can call or text anytime. Mia is getting engaged in the evening and I planned her an engagement party.
Caleb
Really? That’s awesome.
Alleigha
Yes, I love stuff like that and I’m so excited for her.
Caleb
That’s so great. Happy for her. I bet your party is going to be super cute. You do everything so well.
Alleigha
Thank you. Don’t wait up for me.
Caleb
You know I can’t do that.
Alleigha
I don’t like that I have stuff going on in the evening tomorrow. I’m going to be anxious the whole time thinking about your stuff and all the things going on. I’m just so anxious.
Caleb
I know this will be tough. I’ll want to text you the whole time, but it’s okay. You need to celebrate, Mia.
Alleigha
I’ll still text. I know you’ll need me.
Caleb
Yes, I will.
Alleigha
It won’t be as fast, but I’ll still do everything I can and leave as soon as I can. I hate that I live with Grace. Worst mistake moving in with her. I’ll try my best either way. Maybe shorter texts. I’ll do my best. I know it’ll be an incredibly hard day.
Caleb
I have thought non-stop how I wish I could come to you tomorrow to talk, but Grace. I appreciate you texting me when you can and being there, even if they’re short. P.S. I’m going to get up early to lift. I’m going to sleep in as late as I can, and then just head to the barn. Just letting you know since I told you earlier I was going to text you as soon as I wake up, it won’t be early anymore.
Alleigha
I’m about to leave.
Caleb
Okay.
Alleigha
I really don’t like living with Grace. It was a very bad decision. I was just trying to get out of that apartment as fast as I could. Sounds good. You definitely need to sleep in. You have a big day and you can’t be doing it on low sleep. Headed back to the Hansen’s now. Sorry that you’ve had to stay up so late. You did not have to wait up for me. What time are you getting up tomorrow?
Caleb
Are you and Grace not getting along or do you just miss living alone?
And I’ll head there around 9ish and it’s totally okay. I’m happy to wait up.
Alleigha
We aren’t anywhere near as close as we used to be and there’s just been a lot of little things stacking up. She’s not happy that I got Bean and there’s just a lot more.
Caleb
I’m sorry.
Alleigha
Just wish I would have moved to somewhere alone. That’s my fault. Anyways, are you good?
Caleb
How long is your lease there?
Alleigha
My lease ends in October.
Caleb
Oh man. And I’m doing as good as I can, trying not to think about it, but I know I have to.
Alleigha
Resend me your list of to-dos for tomorrow just so you have it in your head and since we added a couple more.
Caleb
Todd and Jill, grab the girls, talk to neighbor, call Jordan, call Dave, get burner phone.
Alleigha
Your very last thing is getting a burner phone. So, you won’t be able to really text me until all those things are done.
Caleb
Good point. Should I start with the burner?
Alleigha
Yes, only if texting me is a priority tomorrow.
Caleb
Absolutely.
Alleigha
Would hate to hear about everything after it’s all over. As long as you hide the phone really well, too. Could be suspicious if someone sees that you have another phone.
Caleb
For sure. I’ll keep it very well hidden. Think I should pay cash for this so it’s not in my bank account.
Alleigha
Good idea. Very good idea.
Caleb
Okay, so got to stop at the ATM. How much are they?
Alleigha
Also, Jordan isn’t getting home until like 9:00 p.m. tomorrow. I don’t know if you should call him, as he will be in the car around all of his kids and Terra. Maybe just shoot him a text and ask if you guys can meet as soon as possible. Mine was 90, but only because I got a touchcreen. You could always get a flip phone. Would be way cheaper.
Caleb
Okay, sounds good. I’ll tell him. I’ll be there Tuesday meeting with you guys and I really need to see him after.
Alleigha
Sounds great. That would be best. I know this is off topic, but I’m really scared right now. Just a lot of thoughts that go through my head when I’m alone in a big house.
Caleb
What kind of thoughts?
Alleigha
I’m just so scared someone snuck in here while I was gone and is hiding in a room or is staring at me through their big windows or something. Just scared when I have to be alone like this. You know how I am. I know it sounds silly
Caleb
No, it’s not. Turn all the lights on. You got your taser?
Alleigha
I don’t. It’s not charged.
Caleb
If you text only a period, I’m calling the cops. I’m sorry you’re alone, though.
Alleigha
You don’t understand.
Caleb
What do you mean?
Alleigha
I get scared to the point where it’s crippling. I hate being alone more than anything in this world.
Caleb
What can I do to help? Seriously.
Alleigha
My fear keeps me awake at night when I’m alone.
Caleb
Is there anything?
Alleigha
It’s okay. Just need you to know it’s not something that’s just light.
Caleb
No, I know you’ve told me about this and I know that’s why you put the blanket over your head. Are you at the house now?
Alleigha
Yeah, do you feel protective over me at all anymore? Never mind.
Monday, February 16, 2026
Alleigha
Yeah, I’m here.
Caleb
Always. It will never, nor will it ever stop.
Alleigha
Okay, well, don’t let me keep you awake any longer. Huge day tomorrow.
Caleb
How is your mind? I want to know you’re okay and in bed at least.
Alleigha
I really struggle with fear and loneliness, and I’m also in my head about tomorrow. This happens so often, and I’m trying with every fiber of my being not to get my hopes up. There’s a lot going through my head. But I’ll be okay. I’ve wrestled with awful thoughts every night for months. I can deal with it alone. I’m used to that by now.
Caleb
I want to say so much, but I won’t. I pray for you still every night and we’ll pray for your mind right now. Protection in Jesus’ name.
Alleigha
Thank you. Make sure you are sure about your decision tomorrow. And where in your to-do list are you packing your things?
Caleb
I’m sure, but I’ll let you know if anything changes, which it won’t.
Alleigha
What do you mean you’ll let me know if anything changes? Gosh, this is the same story every time. Why even say that, Caleb?
Caleb
No. That’s why I said which it won’t. Why?
Alleigha
Why even say that like it’s an option? Like it’s in your mind.
Caleb
My bad. Seriously, you have asked me several times if I’m sure and if I want to do this and so I just responded with a poor choice of words. It’s not an option. I’m sorry.
Alleigha
Man, Caleb.
Caleb
Please know I didn’t mean anything by that. I’m so sorry.
Alleigha
I’m sure (but)
Caleb
No buts. Are you in bed?
Alleigha
I’m going to sleep.
Caleb
Okay, thank you again for all your help today. I’ll get a burner phone first thing and contact you from that. And then after every update.
Alleigha
Haha, you really don’t care about how you just made me feel tonight. Just things won’t change, Caleb.
Caleb
I do. No, please don’t say that.
Alleigha
I’m sorry, but you don’t. How in the world could you even have the thought of something changing tomorrow?
Caleb
I do care. I meant nothing by that comment. It won’t.
Alleigha
How could that have been said at all?
Caleb
That’s why I literally said it wouldn’t.
Alleigha
I asked you if you were sure and you said you’ll let me know if anything changes. That shows me that you’re unsure. I’m waiting for the next excuse.
Caleb
I literally said, which I won’t. I’m sorry I said it that way. I meant it in a way that won’t change.
Alleigha
Goodness, Caleb, you don’t get it, the fact that you said it at all. Let’s go to sleep. Keep me posted. Good night. My heart is so fragile. You aren’t careful. I’ve been burnt far too many times that I’ve deserved.
Caleb
Man, not sure. Not how I wanted to sleep. The night before the hardest day of my life, but I’ll continue to apologize. I’m not changing my mind. It was never a thought. I want you, Alleigha. I want to do this. I want a chance. I’m sorry I even said it. It was a stupid comment that came off wrong and I’m so sorry. Seriously, I’m so sorry. I wasn’t meaning to be careless.
Alleigha
You just have to be careful. I literally just communicated 10 minutes ago how terrified I am that you aren’t going to follow through tomorrow like every other time. You’ve got my hopes up again. We’ll see what happens. Let’s drop it.
Caleb
I will be more careful. I’m sorry.
Alleigha
Just all feel so familiar. Okay.
Caleb
You will see tomorrow. Well, actually today now. I’ve already made the first step and talked to her. Now it’s her family, then you and Josh publicly. Then Jordan, it’s happening, Alleigha. Thank you for everything today.
Alleigha
Okay. You’re welcome. Get some sleep and sleep in.
Caleb
All right, I’ll talk to you as soon as I get a phone. February 16th, day I’ll never forget.
Alleigha
You’re about to be free.
Caleb
I choose you Alleigha. You’re more than enough. Good night.
Alleigha
Good night. Praying now.
Caleb
Thank you. Praying for you as well. Good night.
Alleigha
Hey, I know you said not to text first, but real quick, when you get the burner, you will have to text this number. I still have my burner, so it’s complicated. I can only receive iMessages with my old number. Let me know when you’ve received this. I won’t text on here anymore. Caleb, I just saw the news. Someone told me to pray for Mrs. Flynn. WHAT IS GOING ON RIGHT NOW? WERE YOU BEHIND THIS? What is going on? Is this real?